Welcome to our new forum! All existing NW Cryobank forum users will need to reset their passwords. Click forgot password and enter your email address to receive the link. Email us at info@nwcryobank.com with any questions.
NW Cryobank community boards and sibling connect groups will no longer be available after December 20th, 2023.
Using a KD: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly
TheMysticalOne
Posts: 850 ✭✭
I've been considering using a known donor. I would like you guys to share your experiences with me. Did you use a contract? Does he have any contact with the child/future child? How much does he know about you? Does he know a lot or was it pretty much anonymous? Did you request an STD test? Did you travel or did he? Did you send it through the mail and how? Please give me all the info you can. You can pm me too if you want. I have a donor in mind, but am still not sure. Just can't decide...so many things to think about. Gah..
Tagged:
0
Comments
www.donorhomedelivery.com/
But typically people only do one kit per cycle. So you don't receive the kit usually until 24 hours past +OPK. So if you ovulate before or pretty close than this might not be the chose for you. Also you need to worry if your KD is going to donate. Our actually wrote me saying how he over booked himself and wasn't sure he would donate but he did pull through but it was extra/added stress that wasn't needed. But the upside is that's it's cheaper.
EVERY donor/KD should be tested for STD's. Also, some donors donate like crazy an have ALOT of offspring running around. Some people this bothers, especially Heath and I..So I would make sure if this is something you don't want to run into, ask how many offspring do they plan to produce and if they will donate for siblings.
Good Luck in your choice
After that we did 3 months with NW, but it was expensive so we revisited the idea of a KD and asked a guy I work with and had jokingly talked about it with. He was actually way into it and had been kinda thinking about it for almost a year since we joked about it. We had dinner and hashed out details, he gave us his family history, the good and the bad, we told him how it would be done. He doesn't want anything to do with the kid as far as raising it, but he is open to knowing the kid and at some point letting the kid know who he is if it becomes an issue.
We paid for his STD test (Planned parenthood, only like 12 bucks) and I sat with him when he called for his results so that I knew for sure that everything was okay. We worried it might be awkward, but we all have the same sort of sense of humor about the whole thing so it is working out. He is committed to doing at drop at our place up to 3 times during the proper window, and last time when that seemed to be too early (OPK, cervix and FF said I would O monday, temping said I hadn't by wensday morning) he was able to come down an extra day. We give him gas money and beer, and sometimes we have dinner and hang before hand.
The most important thing is that you are comfortable with the arrangement. And of course to get him tested!
I know everyone's experiences with a KD is unique. I haven't decided on whether or not I would use a contract or not. I know some people INSIST on using it, but I've also read that it doesn't hold up in court at all. So I'm not sure if I want to give that much personal information. I will have to talk about this with the KD I'm talking to. I'm not completely sold on the idea but I know I still have time. The truth is that it's so much more intimate than using a sperm bank. I haven't decided if I like that or NOT. LOL. I do like the cost factor. haha.
I think I would rather just meet up with him rather than mail it. I'm a little nervous about having to buy the sperm mailer kit and then not having him MAIL it back to me. Maybe I'm just distrustful--I don't know!! Would you ask him how many children have resulted from his "contributions"? I know I would kind of like to know.
It's so suprising how some of you found KD's through people that you know. That's so great that you didn't have to look for someone on the internet. Makes it a lot easier!
Why don't they invent sperm donor vending machines and then all will be GOOD!!?? I'll have E5 please!
As for the KD issue, I'm still not sure of whether or not I'm going to do it. I've gone back and forth with the idea and keep going back to the cryobank. But I have a little extra time to decide. Thanks to everyone for your help and info!