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Is there ever a right or perfect time
rara-0313
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To add more children to the mix. Olive is now 3 and I've wanted a sibling for her since way before she was even one, but I always told myself I should wait for multiple reasons ex: what if I meet Mrs.right I dont want 2 kids...she will want more together and I dont want more than 2. Will I be able to give Olive the life she has now with an additional child and the list goes on. I've come to the conclusion that I have no idea what my future holds so why am I putting off having a second child? Everything will fall into place, right? Well why am I nervous? How was it for you going from one to two? What made you have another child? For those single moms with one what keeps you from expanding your family?
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When I think about having #2 - I think about waiting until Maggie is in Kindergarten or almost in Kindergarten for many reasons she will be in school all day so that will help with daycare costs, she will be older and more able to understand what is happening and I think it will be easier financially. With all that planning anything could happen in the next 3 years. I had planned on TTC next month but now I am really on the fence about it.
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
The right time seems to be whenever YOU think it is as long as the essentials are taken care of.
It truly happened faster than we thought it would...but we wouldn't change it for the world! This baby will arrive just two months before our sons 2nd birthday and we have many close friends who have kids aged about the same distance apart...busy sure, but I know it will be so amazing and rewarding to add another little body to our family and make S a big brother.
So yes, never a right or wrong time...as long as you know you want another child and are prepared for the basics at least.
October 2014
Adding Juliet to our family did create moments of jealousy and temper tantrums, but it also brought hours and hours of very positive interactions as well.
So far, a piece of cake.
But ...... Lilianna still goes to preschool fulltime, so I get lots of downtime with my little man. As well, little man sleeps alot, so I'm able to get lots of stuff done, and still have one-on-one time with Lilianna.
As far as why ....... I felt it was hugely important to give her a sibling. Not only so that she could experience that bond, and hopefully have a lifelong best friend, but also so that one day when she's a teenager, and screams "Mom, you just don't get it", she'll have someone else there who hopefully WILL get it. KWIM?
I read this and wanted to high-five my computer screen!!!