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Getting out of a funk
K&H
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Christmas was a year since our loss, and we are no closer to another baby than we were then. I was so sure we would at least be pregnant by now. I am definitely in a funk about it. All I think about is not being pregnant, not having a baby, when will we have a baby, how long will this take, will we ever have more kids, what can I do to get and stay pregnant, etc etc..
How do I get out of the funk? We aren't ttc exactly right this moment, probably waiting for Ivf.. So how do I just let it go for now and stop obsessing about it?
How do I get out of the funk? We aren't ttc exactly right this moment, probably waiting for Ivf.. So how do I just let it go for now and stop obsessing about it?
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It's also really important to allow yourself to be miserable if that's how you feel. Sometimes we all have to sit for a while in our dark places and acknowledge that they are a valid part of who we are. I'm not saying wallow - just don't force yourself to bury those feelings.
I was so sure that 2015 was going to be our year, and that by Christmas we'd have a baby in our family. And with our BFP I was over the moon thinking surely it was our turn at last. So I completely get where you're coming from. I don't know that I can offer any good advice on distracting oneself from it, as I'm still trying to figure out how to do that myself. All I can think about is when will we get to try again? Will it work the next time? Do we have any chance at a 2015 baby? Are we going to be going through this for another year? Can we even afford to try more than once this year? Are we going to run out of money without ever seeing a baby?
It's awful. And I can't seem to find joy or distraction in any of the things in my life, even things I used to love. It's like all the color has gone out of the world. Right now I'm trying to focus on the things I HAVE to do, work and chores and whatnot. At least then I'm busy, if not happy, and it makes the days go by faster.
I do envy you guys for having E, though. And I hope that things will get better for you guys, and that this year will be YOUR year for adding to your family!
Early ovarian failure. 4 failed ICIs, 6 failed IUIs. Donor Egg IVF in Greece: IVF#1 12/2014 - BFP, miscarried at 6WK3D. IVF #2 4/2015 - BFN. IVF#3 7/2015 - BFP. Baby boy Searc born 4/8/16 - 9lbs, 2 oz
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