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Can I Vent...hurt and frustrated

old mamaold mama Posts: 4,682
edited November -1 in Miscarriage/Loss
I went to dr. today as my dr. had instructed me too last Wed. when I lost the baby. He had been the one to give me my fertility drugs and been so excited for me when I got my bfp. He had given me his private number with instructions to call him anytime. It was him I called the night I was losing the baby. He walks into the appt. and asks me how the baby was doing what?)(&$#@ He knows I lost the baby. I reminded him and he says oh sorry. I reminded him that he thought maybe there may have been twins and I asked him to rerun the hcg level so see if possibly there might have been two or even asked about an ultrasound. He poo pooed both ideas. The only thing he gave me was a script for a low dose of Xanax for anxiety. With my insurance I have to go through him. I guess the only thing I can do now is just get some good home pregnancy tests and watch to see if levels go down enough to read not pregnant. My bleeding had slowed down but painful cramping today and heavier bleeding with clots so I really don't think there is a way I could still be PG but I feel so hurt. I guess I am stupid for thinking a dr. could be a mistake.


  • tinydancertinydancer Posts: 1,210
    edited November -1
    oh my god what a jerk!!! were your progesterone levels low or were you on the pills at all? with fertility meds, I would hope so and I would demand a blood test. when I had my loss, I had levels in me for 3 months and i kept getting + tests which cost a ton and just made me nuts. normally they follow you thru your hcg levels dropping but I didnt request it cause it would have been alot of needles and I have a phobia.

    in your case, see if you can get another opinion or ultrasound. have you taken a test again?
  • K&HK&H Posts: 3,368 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    With my loss I did the same, tried pg tests over and over to watch it get lighter, and eventually it went to nothing. You should be ok to just do that and go for more help if needed.
    I'm sorry it wasn't supportive, you don't need more crap right now. :(
  • JCAlaskaJCAlaska Posts: 251
    edited November -1
    :( I'm so sorry you had to deal with yet another loss and a jerk for a Dr. That's just wrong!
    J & J in Alaska - 4th TTC created our little one. Miscarried at 10 wks 4 days on 12/1/10. Tried many more times then took a break for a couple of years to get healthy. We're BACK!! :)
  • old mamaold mama Posts: 4,682
    edited November -1
    I have to forgive him...I called save almost $200 for an office call...if it smells of fertility my insurance won't pay a penny. I had refills on my clomid and progesterone for another try but asked for ovidrel...he called one in right away... I know they were slammed the last couple weeks. Our small town had a big respiratory virus outbreak. When I can step back and the emotional pain of the loss isn't so bad I can see how much he has been there for me. I know he didn't do it on purpose and I know he is just a GP and maybe I expect too much from him...hard living in rural area going to specialists is a full day trip.
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