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Disney World with extra child
roses25
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Hi Everyone.
We just recently went through a very tragic and unexpected death of my sister. Sadly she left behind my 4 year old nephew who she had sole custody of. However, I'm excited to announce that my family will be growing at the beginning of October because I will be becoming the guardian to my nephew who lost his mother in a tragic unexpected death recently.
I've been planning a Disney World trip for a year now and we are supposed to go at the end of October. My children are now 7 and almost 4, and my nephew is almost 5. Do you think you'd still do the Disney World trip with just adding another family member as a single mom? I would take my nephew too if we went now. I've almost thought about pushing Disney dates back further because this guardianship is going to cost roughly 10,000 in attorney fees. However, I also feel like we've been waiting so long to take a big vacation that we should just take it, enjoy, and I should just get a loan for the attorney fees since Disney was already planned.
Carolyn
We just recently went through a very tragic and unexpected death of my sister. Sadly she left behind my 4 year old nephew who she had sole custody of. However, I'm excited to announce that my family will be growing at the beginning of October because I will be becoming the guardian to my nephew who lost his mother in a tragic unexpected death recently.
I've been planning a Disney World trip for a year now and we are supposed to go at the end of October. My children are now 7 and almost 4, and my nephew is almost 5. Do you think you'd still do the Disney World trip with just adding another family member as a single mom? I would take my nephew too if we went now. I've almost thought about pushing Disney dates back further because this guardianship is going to cost roughly 10,000 in attorney fees. However, I also feel like we've been waiting so long to take a big vacation that we should just take it, enjoy, and I should just get a loan for the attorney fees since Disney was already planned.
Carolyn
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If you feel like you know him well and he is doing alright, then I would take him. Might be nice to have a bonding trip and for him to be distracted from his grief for a bit.
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018
I do think tho that the trip would be great for your nephew because he had so much happen. wow, how crazy and sad. if I were you, I would get him in counseling or at least you to see how to help him and you all adjust.
lastly, I think its absolutely insane that ANYONE needs to pay for guardianship when clearly state help would costs hundreds of thousands to be in foster its so backwards. Im sorry that is a HUGE amount to throw on top of a death.
ahk00,
What type of insurance would cover guardianship court fees for someone else's child your taking guardianship of?
I'd love to adopt, but I don't know that it is an option at this time. The father is still in the picture as he has never had his parental rights terminated, but the court has determined him to be unfit at this time to have custody of his son. From the sounds of it, you have to prove that the father hasn't paid child support and visited the child for the past year to adopt in Wyoming. He hasn't done visits even though he's had the option to do supervised visits for 2 years now, but from my sister's words he pays child support randomly when he has a job. I'd like to find out when the last time he's paid, so I can start the adoption once that year hits. Does anyone know how to find a record of when child support was paid?
Carolyn
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018
http://www.ocfs.state.ny.us/main/publications/pub5108.pdf
My youngest sister has custody of my older sisters 8 year old son. She also has an 8 year old daughter and 11 year old son. The transition has been better than I think I would ever expect under the circumstances (similar to your family's). In fact, we are still waiting for the potential reactions you would expect when a young child suddenly looses a parent.
Do your children know Disney is in a month? Have you asked your nephew?
Thanks for the link. Yes, my kids know Disney is in a month. I've talked to Aiden about waiting for Disney and somehow he seems to understand. I haven't asked my nephew yet.
Carolyn
I just turned 50 and fabulous!!! Enjoying life with my amazing family!!
Mom to Rachel 33, Bethany 30, Rebekah 30, Zachrey 20 and several angel babies
Grandma to Larissa 11, Brittney 11, Trevor 11, Destiny 7, Jayvin 6, Jackxon 3, Kaleb Joshua Rian 1. Grandbaby #8, Sariah Grace born 11-17-16
depending on your nephew's personality and how he's dealing with the loss of his mother, the distraction of a vacation could be a good thing, though.
by the way, i'm very sorry for your loss. and congrats on gaining a new son.