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What would you do?
b&kmakebabies
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So since before our son was born we have explained to family that we don't want photos of him online unless it's a deliberate family or milestone photo that we post. We've said it is ok to post photos of the back of his head like if someone is holding him, but we just don't want his face plastered all over our walls and newsfeed. Personal choice and one we don't have to justify as we are the parents. We have a family only private FB group where we post those daily photos and we can all comment back and forth.
Everyone has been fine with this. Except one grandparent who claims it is like telling her she can't breathe that she can't post photos publically. She refuses to post on the group and basically just hasn't posted anything at all. Which is fine. I don't care if grown people have temper tantrums. I figured she'll get over it.
Anyway. Last night she publically posted a photo of another grandparent holding out son. He was asleep and the back of his head was all you can see. Fine. Then another photo where his face is in the frame but only half of it is shown. It's honestly a hideous photo, but I guess that's besides the point. Lol.
This whole Facebook thing has really hurt my relationship with this grandparent. We are cordial around each other, but it's just not the same. I honestly think she thinks the half face is fine. It bothers me though. I wonder if she posts this, would she start trying to push the envelope to post other photos? Keep in mind we have a Facebook group with 40 family and friends that she can also add close friends to that she refuses to post in.
So, if you had told people not to post photos of your child's face online, would you confront about this? Let it slide and see if it continues? I really don't know how to address this with her as we have had this conversation with her so much. Any advice?? My wife isn't awake yet, so I'm just looking for conversation on defiant grandparents. Haha!
Everyone has been fine with this. Except one grandparent who claims it is like telling her she can't breathe that she can't post photos publically. She refuses to post on the group and basically just hasn't posted anything at all. Which is fine. I don't care if grown people have temper tantrums. I figured she'll get over it.
Anyway. Last night she publically posted a photo of another grandparent holding out son. He was asleep and the back of his head was all you can see. Fine. Then another photo where his face is in the frame but only half of it is shown. It's honestly a hideous photo, but I guess that's besides the point. Lol.
This whole Facebook thing has really hurt my relationship with this grandparent. We are cordial around each other, but it's just not the same. I honestly think she thinks the half face is fine. It bothers me though. I wonder if she posts this, would she start trying to push the envelope to post other photos? Keep in mind we have a Facebook group with 40 family and friends that she can also add close friends to that she refuses to post in.
So, if you had told people not to post photos of your child's face online, would you confront about this? Let it slide and see if it continues? I really don't know how to address this with her as we have had this conversation with her so much. Any advice?? My wife isn't awake yet, so I'm just looking for conversation on defiant grandparents. Haha!
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My husband and I are vegetarians and plan on raising our children vegetarian as well, as we've already put it out there to family that if they"sneak" meat to them (I don't know why someone should do that with another person's kid!!!) it is an automatic violation of relationship and"cut off" worthy status.
Anyway, I hope this grandparent thinks twice next time and respects your wishes.
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I have already thought about this because I don't think I want pictures posted online either.
Speaking of food issues, my mom has been arguing with me for months about food and taking the baby to McDonald's. I follow a strict Paleo diet (no grains) because of allergies. I also eat everything organic. So no to McDonald's. I already threatened my mom that if she takes the kid to McDonald's she's cut off. She was laughing, although I'm really not joking lol. And I'm not even pregnant yet!
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
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It was her photo though on her page...
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
I'm really just fed up. I wish I could make her stop bringing this up, but nothing I've said seems to help. It's really damaging our relationship. I don't even want to hang out with her anymore and my wife is even more sick of it.
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
I would say we love that you love your grandchild so much that you want the world to seem him but we really do not want his picture online. We will go to any measures to make sure that this rule stayes in place. We are not budging no matter what you say.
I'm a firm person when it comes to my child and I'm sorry I'm not going to tiptoe around a family members feelings because they can't listen to my rules.
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She thinks we have already ruined his safety (which she doesn't believe anyway, but remember she thinks this is why we aren't posting) by revealing his birth announcement, so she thinks anything should be posted now. She simply made fun of us when we tried to explain our real reason for not posting photos. She flat out condescended and made fun of us. I've never had her act this way towards me, so I was so hurt when that happened. It's all been downhill since. I'm not sure why she can't respect our decision as we are the parents. If we say he can only wear striped onsies outside, then she should listen (bad example, but I'm sleep deprived).
I'm rambling, but I just need somewhere to vent.
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
Ugh.
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!