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For my fellow Christians...
ncteacher
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Are any of you trying to figure out how God feels about using donor sperm? Have you talked to pastors/read any Biblical stories, etc.?
I talked with my Mom about this last night, and she said she was struggling with this as well...until she read Genesis. She said that there are some infertility stories in there that made her feel more secure about the choice that we have made... I think that I am going to read that this evening. :-)
I talked with my Mom about this last night, and she said she was struggling with this as well...until she read Genesis. She said that there are some infertility stories in there that made her feel more secure about the choice that we have made... I think that I am going to read that this evening. :-)
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Need to update a ticker, Silas Anthony Jordon born Oct 11, 2013. 6th baby, so much love!
Need to update a ticker, Silas Anthony Jordon born Oct 11, 2013. 6th baby, so much love!
A few months ago I was talking to a mom in my SMBC group and she made this comment "God was the ultimate sperm donor." Duh!
I know there are examples of similar events in the bible - just can't quote them right this second. But women who couldn't get pregnant after years of desperation they would sleep with someone else and get pregnant. Not exactly the same thing but...
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
And, I agree with PP's that God absolutely does NOT punish people with infertility!! If that were true, then all people who have children of their own would be wonderful, perfect parents and be deserving of a bigger 'blessing' than the rest of us. That simply isn't how our God works. My Dad is one of the smartest men I've ever known and he always reminded me while growing up - Everything that happens in life is not the choice of God to punish or bless that individual; the Bible says "The rain falls on the just and the unjust." and we just have to accept that God allows 'life' to happen and remember, He is always available to help us through whatever it is that comes along. Not to discredit God in any way and say He doesn't choose to bless certain people, in certain ways, at certain times, or even choose to withhold certain things at certain times; I'm just saying, in my understanding, it isn't all in His planning and we cannot blame Him when things don't go our way or things happen that we don't understand, anymore than we can believe that every good thing that happens is a direct 'blessing' from Him (such as a beautiful baby). With that being said, regardless if it's God' choice to bless us with a baby, or just a matter of life that He allows to happen, I will most definitely praise and thank Him when we are blessed with our precious baby!
one of His commandments does say not to covet they neighbors house"...this means everything in it...including children. Be careful not to become jealose of those who have children, just because you do not.
God loves us all...but, its up to us to love Him back.
Also, God did not put sin or pain, hurt, or even death into our world. Adam and Eve did that. He wanted us to be without hurt, pain or death and he created us to 'hang out" with us. He wanted us to love, be happy and live forever.
Goobie...I hope this helps with your anger toward God. We all have a date to leave this world. Some sooner than later. We hurt when we lose a loved one. God never wanted us to know pain, or tears or to see a loved one die.
In responce to the whole thread in general, I do not think any god would punish people with infertility, nor do I think using DS is a sin. I think we sometimes have to work harder for those things we desire most, and AI is definitely working harder then some have to! Nothing worth having comes easy, and I see it more as a test then a punishment. Though there are days I feel it is a punishment too - normally right after AF shows! It's hard, yep, but I don't think it is a sin... you have no idea how badly I want to email m y daddy and ask what his church veiws on artificial insemination and using donor sperm are...
Need to update a ticker, Silas Anthony Jordon born Oct 11, 2013. 6th baby, so much love!
Also, it's been a while since CCD, but I seem to remember something about this woman who got pregnant without even having sex. I can't think of her name, but from what I recall her son was sort of a big deal.
ETA: I also see the Book of Ruth as affirmation that there's nothing wrong with two committed women raising a child together, so, I guess you should probably take anything I say with a huge grain of salt.
http://www.surrogacy.com/medres/article/christv.html
Her name was MARY....and her Son was JESUS! LOL
It is a highly controversial topic. There is no one right or wrong answer, but the top three are:
If one is using their own eggs and their partners sperm, then it is ok, it still follows the "one body" aspect of marriage
If one is using their eggs/sperm and a donors egg/sperm, some still sy it ok, some will consider it adultery.
If one is using donor sperm and donor egg, the church frowns upon this, mostly due to the "how many embryos are being made?" aspect, if 6 embies are made and only 2 used, and the other 4 destroyed, this could fall into line with abortion.
Some people from the Lutheran church still believe that if a couple is infertile for any reason, that is Gods Will.
When I asked him about SMBC and same sex relationships, he said "don't worry about what the church says, you know that there will be those who say go for it, and those who say it's wrong, but I don't think God leads us the wrong way"
May I add in here, my dad is a dork, but I love him. And I love that he is not only a pastor, but a real person first. He is divorced and remarried (something "the church" frowns on) he has been disowned by one of his own children for his own screw ups (but is trying to work on that, slowly), openly admits that he had sex with another woman before he married my mom, openly admits that he had sex with my mom before they married, openly admits he had sex with my step mom (ugh) before they got married. He believes in birth control, he himself got snipped after the birth of my now 8 year old brother, he thinks adoption is grand, and he never once turned his back on TWO of his daughters who were single teen moms (my sis at 18, me at 17). So yeah, what "the church" says and what God says are not always the same thing... and as I mentioned in the OT Books thread, I highly recommend the book "The Shack" for anyone, no matter religion, it really opened my eyes to how Gods Will and the churches will are not the same... don't forget that any church is made up of imperfect humans, the Bible was written by 8 people and has been translated and retranslated a gazillion times, and (I feel) one should trust their instinct and their own faith in whatever God or Goddess they worship.
Need to update a ticker, Silas Anthony Jordon born Oct 11, 2013. 6th baby, so much love!
@Goobie - I think I like your dad. He sounds pretty awesome AND just what any religious person should be...Understanding and Un-judgmental.
And thanks, I like my dad pretty well too! In all honesty, he is a GREAT pastor, he kinda sucks as a dad, you know, the whole "the shoemakers kids go shoeless" thing? Yeah well, he was so busy councelling other families while we were growing up that he sort of forgot about us then... but we're working on it.... I personally have much more respect for any person who remembers that first and foremost they are human and thus falliable.
Need to update a ticker, Silas Anthony Jordon born Oct 11, 2013. 6th baby, so much love!
I don’t think the bible says anything about artificial insemination because when it was written, all those many eons ago, the reproductive cycle was not understood in the least. All they knew was that it had something to do with men and women; women were the ones to get pregnant; and men were the ones ordered not to waste their “seed.” Oh, and women were considered property, so they didn't matter all that much anyway. But that’s about it.
I think the ethic of love, of loving families, is far more compelling than any deuteronomic or levitical codes about masturbation or sex or adultery, etc.
We do not have a stand on fertility treatments for infertile or same gender couples or in vitro fertilization or surrogate motherhood per se, but we do affirm that children should be loved, desired and supported.