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Jealousy *rant*
nervouswreck
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I am so embarassed about how I feel. I feel like a over grown toddler when I think of my jealousy that I am back on this side. At first I was dealing with my jealousy.. But now I swear I am getting aggravated that once again I am here and people come ,try three or four times and insist that they must have something terribly wrong with them or it'll never happen for them and go to the beyond board the next month. (this isn't directed at ANYONE and I am not trying to start something either its just my feelings. (((probly Clomid induced )))
It also doesn't help that my Mother felt that it was inappropriate that we named our miscarried baby and she disaproved of our name choice. I want to ask her WTF she thinks she is to insult our name choice for OUR child.
It also doesn't help that my Mother felt that it was inappropriate that we named our miscarried baby and she disaproved of our name choice. I want to ask her WTF she thinks she is to insult our name choice for OUR child.
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I think your mother is way out of line for thinking the way she did and then complaining about your name choice!!! I lost a baby 1 year and 3 days after having my twins. My parents made sure there was a graveside service for her and everything. I named that baby after my mother and she couldnt have been more thrilled. I am sorry your mother is not as understanding as mine.
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I am so very sorry that at such a difficult time you didn't have the support of your Mother, in particular when dealing with the name that you gave your child - her grand child.
I hope that you can keep faith in trying and not give up. I am going to try this month, and my chances of getting pregnant are really slim for a variety of reasons.
If you ever want to talk I will listen. I am the Mom of three boys, two adopted at age 4 and 7 and Xander which DP carried. I still feel the pain (even having children) that I have never been able to get pregnant.
I wish you peace and a happy heart. All your emotions are so normal, it is a hard time in a womans life. I get you on the clomid maybe being part of it. I am on day 5 of 5 and thought I was going to kill someone this week. Darn hormones.
Most important I'm sorry that your mom is not supporting you and the loss you had. That was her grandchild and she should be there to support you through thick and thin. You get a great big hug from me and I hope that you can heal soon!
I'm so, so sorry that your mother couldn't be there for you and her grandchild in a way that would have been meaningful and helpful to you. Hopefully, in time, she'll be able to see how important it is for her to support you in this time.
With our angel, lost 10/15/09, but always with us
Take care and don't back off from your feelings. We are human and it is natural to feel that way. Will be thinking of you this night.
Need to update a ticker, Silas Anthony Jordon born Oct 11, 2013. 6th baby, so much love!
***HUGS***
I feel left out, sad, disappointed... you name it, I've felt it and I'm not going to apologize to anyone for having those feelings from time to time. Unless they've lived my life and waited, prayed, cried, spent thousands of dollars on fertility things and are still waiting with empty arms, (for me, almost nine years later) they have absolutely no idea what I'm going through on a daily basis.
I'll be honest, it even bothers me sometimes when I open a post that is about someone having a miscarriage, etc. and there is post after post with pregnancy tickers staring back at me. I know it's amazing that they are all taking the time to post and be so supportive and I know they aren't intentionally adding insult to injury but on a bad day, it just seems like they are, even though I know they're not! Make sense?
As everyone else has said, we understand - some of us more than others maybe because of our similar situations but I'm sure we all 'understand' why you are feeling the way you are and 'don't judge' you, no matter where we are in the TTC journey. Stay strong and hopefully tomorrow will be a brighter day! (((HUGS)))
The TTC thing is stressful, frustrating, and a million other things.
I realize that I am lucky to have not had to go through very much of it. In truth, when I found out that I was pregnant, I waited to post here. Partly, because I didn't believe that it was true. But, also, because I felt guilty. I'd only been at this for three months. I'm exceedingly lucky and ridiculously blessed---I think about that several times every single day. And, I promise not to forget it.
But, I still think about how hard (and for so long) that so many woman here have tried. To me, this feels similar to "survivor's guilt." It's a really weird thing, honestly. I'm so grateful for where I am right now. But I think a lot about the women who have tried for so long and still haven't arrived at pregnancy.
That said, please know that you are in my thoughts---and, I'd imagine, the thoughts of everyone who is a member of these boards. What you're feeling is normal and understandable. We're all wishing and hoping and praying for you.
Feel free to vent anytime.
I'm sorry your mom reacted the way she did. I can only imagine what a hard time that must have been. I'm so sorry about the baby you lost. I hope you're feeling better soon.
Amanda and Chandra
The support here is amazing... what a great forum!