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Difficult night last night-Am I being selfish?
Jais
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My brain was going 180 miles an hour last night and could barely sleep. I kept thinking 'I'm alone, should I really do this?'....I just know that I am about to be 35 and no prospects for getting married any time soon. I want to be a mother, teach them French, and love them to bits. I just cried and cried but it didn't make that longing go away. It is still there. I guess since the time is getting closer, I am thinking so much and trying so hard to make the best choice.
No one said life was easy or fair!!!
No one said life was easy or fair!!!
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Its a totally personal decision.
Good luck.
Many are on the Beyond boards and are really nice ladies.
My biggest reassurance was prayers and signs from God.
The month before I was supposed to AI I finally gave up on making the logical decision from my brain, or a sensitive one from my heart. I prayed to God that he would give me a sign.
A week later I was laying in bed, at the end of a long day, and I was reading "Becoming a Better You", by Joel Osteen. And as I read towards the bottom of first page in the second chapter, there was a singled out sentence, surrounded by a blank line above and below it, and centered on the page. Based on the spatial positioning, there was no doubt that is was an important point. It read:
"You will give birth to more in the future than you have lost in the past"
I couldn't believe what I had read. As soon as I realized that - that was my sign I immmediately started sob tears of joy and relief, and reassurance. It was like a total release .... a sigh of relief .... a confirmation that I WAS making the right decision.
And then on a lighter note, when I actually made the call to order my swimmers, the hold music was playing "Wendy", by the Beach Boys ..... that's my name. : )
So, I don't know if you are a woman of faith, or if you give any merit to signs, but both worked wonders to ease my mind. And, just maybe, God gave me that sign so that I could share it with you too.
And if not, know that being an SMBC is not a new concept. You are not one of the radical rebels of the new milleneum. Women have been making these decisions for years. Some of them go the "free" route, if you know what I mean, and others are more calculated and formal about it. I'm also willing to bet that many of them are GREAT moms, and that they are forever grateful for being strong enough to make the leap. Because I'll agree, it takes a strong woman to make the leap.
Follow your heart and don't underestimate yourself.
And please feel free to send me a forum email if you want chat more offline.
Hugs!!
Shaeley Mae your words have been very encouraging so thank you for sharing.
Happy Birthday by the way and wishing you all the best with TTC.
Also, just because you start out as a single mother, doesn't necessarily mean it will always be that way. There is always the possibility of meeting someone in the future. Just like there's a possibility of someone with a husband or partner becoming a single mother.
1st beta 456 at 15dpo
2nd beta 6000 at 22 dpo
I understand cocobay and your reasons for not wanting to be a single mom. If it isn't for you than you have to do what feels right for you.
Need to update a ticker, Silas Anthony Jordon born Oct 11, 2013. 6th baby, so much love!
It is a tough decision and one not to take lightly. I wish things were different but no one know what the future holds. Oh what plans we make but they can fall through. Gotta make the best of things. Good luck!!!