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WEhope
Posts: 42
Hi everyone,
Though AF has not yet shown up, I'm pretty convinced I'm going to be out for this month, our 9th attempt after the loss of our daughter (who was conceived on the 9th attempt, so I was hoping 9 would be our lucky number again).
I'm feeling really, really down. And last night I got a call from my 23-year-old brother (I'm 32 and my partner is 39). He and his girlfriend are...you guessed it, pregnant. It was an accident. Their due date is October 10, one day after our daughter's was two years ago (5 days before her ultimate birth/death date). There was NO mention of our situation or that this might be difficult for us when he shared the news. But he was sure to share that our dad is "really excited to be a grandfather." It was hard enough when my brother started dating this woman, because she already had a 2-year-old son and, when we lost our daughter, it seemed so unfair that he had this insta-family and we had our child taken away from us in a moment.
And, I went on facebook today for work (I've been staying off of it for personal use, for the most part, because it's just SO difficult with all of the people announcing pregnancies, births, finding out the sex of their baby, etc.). Of course, the first thing that popped up on my feed was to find out that a college friend is expecting a baby boy in August. The second thing in my feed was pictures of another friend's 1-month-old.
I'm starting to wonder if I have the emotional reserve to deal with all of this...but the fact remains that I so badly want to experience pregnancy again, this time with a non-traumatic birth with a happier outcome after our last experience.
I'm just feeling so defeated...
Thanks for any words of inspiration, encouragement, or strength that you have...
Though AF has not yet shown up, I'm pretty convinced I'm going to be out for this month, our 9th attempt after the loss of our daughter (who was conceived on the 9th attempt, so I was hoping 9 would be our lucky number again).
I'm feeling really, really down. And last night I got a call from my 23-year-old brother (I'm 32 and my partner is 39). He and his girlfriend are...you guessed it, pregnant. It was an accident. Their due date is October 10, one day after our daughter's was two years ago (5 days before her ultimate birth/death date). There was NO mention of our situation or that this might be difficult for us when he shared the news. But he was sure to share that our dad is "really excited to be a grandfather." It was hard enough when my brother started dating this woman, because she already had a 2-year-old son and, when we lost our daughter, it seemed so unfair that he had this insta-family and we had our child taken away from us in a moment.
And, I went on facebook today for work (I've been staying off of it for personal use, for the most part, because it's just SO difficult with all of the people announcing pregnancies, births, finding out the sex of their baby, etc.). Of course, the first thing that popped up on my feed was to find out that a college friend is expecting a baby boy in August. The second thing in my feed was pictures of another friend's 1-month-old.
I'm starting to wonder if I have the emotional reserve to deal with all of this...but the fact remains that I so badly want to experience pregnancy again, this time with a non-traumatic birth with a happier outcome after our last experience.
I'm just feeling so defeated...
Thanks for any words of inspiration, encouragement, or strength that you have...
With our angel, lost 10/15/09, but always with us
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It does seem when you are ttc that everyone around you is becoming preg.
and everything around you just screams out BABY!
I know this is a hard time for you right now, as I myself experienced a m/c
just last year. Please do your very best to stay positive & believe that your little
miracle will come.
Also, be happy for your brother and girlfriend. Tell them their baby will be having
a little cousin to play with soon!
I sure hope AF stays away.
Good luck!
Please please don't give up... this battle is not for the weak of heart but we are strong women - we have more strength within us than we have ever even known and it can and will carry us through - even the most difficult of times. We're all here for you and one day, I am confident you will hold a precious little one in your arms again.
My deepest sympathy on the loss of your little girl... what a tragic turn of events but I will say an extra prayer for you, that baby #2 will find you very soon and help to heal your hearts!
Whatever your next steps are, may they be easy and joyful.
With our angel, lost 10/15/09, but always with us
I know that one day, your time will come. It is hard when TTC to see others get their BFP's, esp those that don't seem so deserving.
I am not a religious person but I will pray for healing upon you and your partner's heart and for that BFP!!! And for that ultimately healthy baby. SO sorry you ever had to know such pain in your young life.
Sky, a natural miracle!
EDD January 25th 2012