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i have decided that when i get pg i want to have a midwife and i would like to have natural birth. noone in my family has done this since my mother had me in 1988. and it is something really important to me and something that i want to give to my child. i told my cousin and her response to it was "your stupid!"then i had to explain to her my reasoning for it and she still doesnt get it because she opted for a c-section because she said she was to anxious to wait for the baby. this is why i havent and dont plan to tell anyone about when we are ttc and im not telling anyone im pg until at least 12 weeks!! except my mom because she is my biggest support system!! whats so wrong with natural birth?
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But for ME, my thought process was why be in agony when you can be calm and pain-free, and enjoy the labor process : )
To each their own ........ and I definitely wouldn't call anyone "stupid" for deciding one way or the other. I think your "secret" TTC might be a very peaceful idea. ; )
That said I have the utmost respect and admiration for women who choose to go all natural, as long as you are doing it for the right reasons and not to be a martyr!! Go For It!
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I had a midwife do my prenatal care and labor. she would have done the birth as well, but I ended up with a section. but I loved the idea of a midwife.... and I felt I needed a hospital.
I have several friends who did midwife assisted homebirths and they went just as perfect as can be
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woww! i see that you had an awful experience! i hear more horror stories from hospital deliveries as opposed to midwives. and im not sayin that there arent flaws with them but i think its a balance with hospitals. hospitals and doctors arent perfect and i think that when it comes down to it it is a decision that must be made by you personally. if i felt that things were not working out with my midwife i would probably try to check another or inlist the help of an ob. but everyone's experience is purely individual. my mom had me natural and said although it was painful the pain was goin after i was out. and she had a c section with my bro and said it was horrible and she still has tenderness where she was cut! so again the birth process is verryyy individual to you and each of your children and the same with all other women
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@ alp!! woow really? i think that suckss!! i think for natural birth you have to be in the mindset that that is what you are going to do! but when its something you do because you cant get around it then it will be even worse lol
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Despite all that...I would STILL try to have a natural home birth if my doctor would let me for baby #2. I know that's not going to happen...he already told me.
Labor/delivery is so different for everyone. You definitely have to do what YOU think is best! : )
My first child I labored at home for 12 hours before going to the hospital. I was well into transistion when I got my epidural. Long story short... I still ended up with a C-section. I am the ONLY person in my family to ever have a C-section. I don't think the pain was horrible,but I think that I would still like to avoid it again if possible. My only issue is my Dr. only does repeat C-sections... If I want to do VBAC (unmedicated) then I have to go to Phoenix or Tucson, in other words 170 miles either way as the crow flies
So what I am saying is that you need to do what you think is right for you, and be prepared for the unexpected to happen.
@ nervouswreck lol i dotn plan on trying to do that with my family because if i did i would be talking until i was dead and gone!! they are stubborn and only see things from one angle!! that being said i am trying to prepare myself now for what likes ahead!! even though i know this wont be happening for at least another year or so i figure if i take in all the info and first hand accounts and documentaries i can get my hands on i will not be going into this blind!! but with my eyes wiiideee open!! and its funny most girls i know that are my age think im insane too lol!! but i always hope for the best and expect the worse in all situations i come in contact with!! and this is no exception
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