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Legal questions!!
BMJK
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So, being in the wonderful state of Alabama, where gay rights and marriage do not exist, I am wondering what I should do about legal issues with our baby. I don't want to seem like a bad person for thinking all of this, I like to think I look at every outcome and have the answers all worked out. I know it is never something we want to think about happening, but bad things do happen in the delivery rooms, and it everyday life. Anyways, I guess with our first baby coming in September I want to make sure everything is taken care of for the Just In Case situation. I know that Misty loves me and my family with everything she has, and her family seems to like me pretty well. But, I am worried of something did happen to Misty, what would become of our child. I don't want the people that DO have a problem with our family and relationship, to take it away from me. I want to make sure that if anything did go wrong, that I would still be able to raise our baby without any issues or problems.
So I suppose my question is, what exactly should we do to make sure thing work the way we would like them to? Should we just hire a lawyer and get everything handled in the legal way? I guess the Lawyer would be the best way, but I am uncertain what we are in need of. I can not adopt our little nugget, nor can I put my name on the Birth Certificate. I figured that with all the knowledgeable ladies on the forum, someone will know exactly what we are looking for.
Thank You all so much for you time and advice.
So I suppose my question is, what exactly should we do to make sure thing work the way we would like them to? Should we just hire a lawyer and get everything handled in the legal way? I guess the Lawyer would be the best way, but I am uncertain what we are in need of. I can not adopt our little nugget, nor can I put my name on the Birth Certificate. I figured that with all the knowledgeable ladies on the forum, someone will know exactly what we are looking for.
Thank You all so much for you time and advice.
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On a side note, I really wish the laws on these sorts of things would catch up to the 21st century. It pisses me off that same sex couples have to put up with such BS.
http://ww.hrc.org/laws_and_elections/state/705.htm
Cocobay...I appreciate the recommendation, I sent her an email explaining everything and I am crossing my fingers that she can give me more information than the lawyers I have already spoken with.
KNS..I understand your frustration completely.. I am pissed off everyday that I cannot marry the woman who I want to spend the rest of my life with. I know I don't need a piece of paper telling me how much I love her, but it would be nice to have the option. I am also upset that nobody on the legal side of things will never view me as our child's Momma. But I still have hopes for the future that someday, it will happen!
We live in CT our entire lives. Lauren and I got married on 10/5 so when Beck was born we had to fill out the motherS. We have all of our wills explaining everything so if something were to ever happen to one of us our kids will be taken care of the way we want them---we used very clear launguage because if something happens to us we want Paige to have full custody of Beck---we are trying to do everything so no one can contest it (although anyone can contest anything.)
Well good luck I just think it's all so crazy that the federal law won't allow same sex marriages!
We are getting ready to redo our wills since baby #2 will be here in a few months. A will at least gives you the chance to have your wishes heard if something happens and if someone contests it, than it is up to the judge.
My cousins parents split up and their mom was killed in a car accident a few months later. Even though the father was capable, the mom's parents contested his custody. It was a complete family MESS.