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OT - strange but true
Jccwill3
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So, I was talking to one of my friends who is a nurse and telling her all about my exciting plans for TTC.
She tells me this story, apparently A friend of hers marrid this older women who already menopausal and had grown kids of her own...like 30-35 hrs old kids. He must be in his forties, the husband. Anyway, when they original got married I guess she would say anything to get him to put a ring on it. He wanted kids desperately and she was done.
After a while, he comes to find out she does want ANY more kids...like nilch, adoption, nothing. Which is fine as a personal choice but not okay to dangle a carrot in front of a horse of a man who loves and wants babies. Should there be just like a mini sacrifice or compromise? Something! But as time goes on...she's warming up to the baby even tho the surrogate has
50/50 custody with the dad.
So she tells him: " you go have the baby on your own. Get a surrogate or adopt do whatever you feel you need to do ... But it won't be my baby. "
And guess what... He did it. He got a surrogate....and his swimmers and made his own baby. His wife isn't even listed on the birth certificate or ther for the birth and he is a full time dad. Like 24/7 with a wife a noooo help. Unfair. Diapers, potty training the whole nine yards. The wife doesn't consider it her own but rather her husbands child. She doesn't really even interact with the kid for the most part. But is still married. Color me confused.
Is this strange or just me? And kudos to those strong Men who are SAHD, single and still have
a maternal instinct. You guys are awesome. Any one ever heard something so....out of the everyday? Twilight zone moment.
She tells me this story, apparently A friend of hers marrid this older women who already menopausal and had grown kids of her own...like 30-35 hrs old kids. He must be in his forties, the husband. Anyway, when they original got married I guess she would say anything to get him to put a ring on it. He wanted kids desperately and she was done.
After a while, he comes to find out she does want ANY more kids...like nilch, adoption, nothing. Which is fine as a personal choice but not okay to dangle a carrot in front of a horse of a man who loves and wants babies. Should there be just like a mini sacrifice or compromise? Something! But as time goes on...she's warming up to the baby even tho the surrogate has
50/50 custody with the dad.
So she tells him: " you go have the baby on your own. Get a surrogate or adopt do whatever you feel you need to do ... But it won't be my baby. "
And guess what... He did it. He got a surrogate....and his swimmers and made his own baby. His wife isn't even listed on the birth certificate or ther for the birth and he is a full time dad. Like 24/7 with a wife a noooo help. Unfair. Diapers, potty training the whole nine yards. The wife doesn't consider it her own but rather her husbands child. She doesn't really even interact with the kid for the most part. But is still married. Color me confused.
Is this strange or just me? And kudos to those strong Men who are SAHD, single and still have
a maternal instinct. You guys are awesome. Any one ever heard something so....out of the everyday? Twilight zone moment.
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What an evil spirited person! Goodness, some people just have no hearts ...or tact.
That's so unfortune for your brother but there are alternatives I guess. But I can't believe he's still married to her especially after she treated you so harshly during such a traumatic time. And I'm so very sorry for that loss.
I agree with JayJay, older women have successful pregnancies and healthy happy babies. How dare she bring age into it. I might have needed bail money at that point....lol just kidding.
But1baby is right...even though there are so many types of family... It's so important to feel loved and wanted especially for the kiddies.