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Suggestions for enforcing a rule without being rude to neighbor
roses25
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We got new neighbors next door, and Aiden has already made friends with them. He enjoys going up and holding a conversation with them. However, the lady smokes and seems to smoke quite a bit outside the house. I talked to Aiden and reminded him about how we've talked about how smokiing is bad for you and I told him that he can not go up to her house (on the front porch) if she is smoking. He said, Alright, Mommy." However, I can see it's going to take some training for him to learn this expectation of mine because he's such a social bug.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can help Aiden learn this expectation without seeming rude to the neighbor....(Ex. everytime she's smoking I ask Aiden to come back)? Today, I called him over to head to the park. Maybe it's not rude to the neighbor to do this because it's a rule that I expect him to follow?
Carolyn
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can help Aiden learn this expectation without seeming rude to the neighbor....(Ex. everytime she's smoking I ask Aiden to come back)? Today, I called him over to head to the park. Maybe it's not rude to the neighbor to do this because it's a rule that I expect him to follow?
Carolyn
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If you're concerned about the neighbor's perception, talk to her directly and enlist her help. Tell her you respect her right to smoke but you don't want your child around it. Maybe set it up so he can't go on her porch unless she invites him. Show Aiden where he needs to stop, and let the neighbor know she's free to call to Aiden to come up if she's not smoking. If she is though, then he is not to pass your stopping point.
This same idea of rules & boundaries works for stopping kids from approaching unfamiliar dogs and from running into the street. It could work to stop Aiden from running up to smoking neighbors too!