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Age and fertility question
starviewchick
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I am a SMBC turning 37 this month. I had my baby girl via ds 7 weeks ago and want her to have at least one sibling hopefully via the same donor. Originally I wanted to start trying for a sibling when my baby is 6-8 months old. However, after reading all the posts about the mom's age and fertility I got a bit anxious. At what age should I anticipate starting to have fertility problems? Maybe I should try for #2 right away? It took me 3 tries at home ICIs with my daughter but who knows how long is it going to take me next time? Another thing is I am breastfeeding on-demand and planned to pump when I return to work so I am not sure when my period is going to return. If it does not come back in 2-3 months, do you think I should stop nursing to get pregnant while I still can? Or should I wait til it starts naturally - even if it takes 12+ months and take chances of having age-related fertility issues? Just want your opinion! Thanks!
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Good Luck, adding to your family is exciting and scary.
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
In your shoes my main concern in delaying would be the risk of genetic anomalies that increase with age (ie: Down's Syndrome). But you're thinking in terms of trying in months rather than years so I think you're fine!
- I gave birth at 36 also so I had waited what seems like a lifetime to have this baby and I wanted to enjoy her. It goes by so crazy fast and before you know it one night she is asleep and you are on FB looking at newborn pics and trying to remember all those moments you swore you would never forget. Life gets in the way as it is but adding stress about ttc is just not fair to you or that little one during that time when they should be the only thing on your mind. Just my opinion.
- Also, "advanced maternal age" doesn't just mean you might have fertility issues...it is code for "you are old" . Let your body recover from one pregnancy before asking it to go through another.
- you may go through a range of emotions and thoughts over the next year as to how close in age you want your children, there will be days when you think you may not want another one, there will be days when you want 12 more. Give yourself time to feel some of those emtions and play out differenet scenarios in your head that are hard to envision right now with your baby so young.
- everyone here probably knows me well enough to know that I would NEVER wean a child to concieve another and inside of a year I just don't agree with that decision. If you want to nurse for a year then nurse but ttc while doing that could be a much bigger obstacle than your age so why stress yourself out?
- as others have pointed out you have no reason to suspect you will have issues 5 minutes, 5 months or 5 years from now. I wouldn't create a problem where one doesn't exist just because you hear those awful words...advanced maternal age.
Enjoy your baby, like I said it goes by SO fast!
I don't think 6 months will make a huge difference in fertility, waiting few years is a different story, but not half a year. But that half a year wll give your body enough time to recover to get ready for another baby.
I gave birth almost 4 months ago, and I don't think I can get pregnant yet, even if I really wanted to (its not that I am even trying, or even thinking about). But my body is still kind of a mess after my pregnancy, I had my first post partum period 2 weeks ago, but it was so different and strange, and I don't think I am ovulating yet.
Anyway, good luck with your decision and enjoy your baby.