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Do you have a rule for this?
Shanny
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For the most part, Kate eats what I eat. There are a few things, whole meals sometimes, that I enjoy a lot and cook pretty regularly like once a month that she just doesn't care for. I won't stop eating something I like, nor force her to eat something she doesn't so I'm not sure if I want to establish another option for these nights (short of cooking a second meal which is not happening). Tonight I made tilapia and white potatoes. She's tried both of these things several times and just doesn't like them. She tried one bite of potatoes and 3 bites of fish (I try really hard not to negotiate "bites" - it drives me crazy). I told her she could have a bowl of cereal (something she could essentially fix on her own) but she wasn't interested in that so I'm kind of at a loss for a good alternative plan. She will try anything and I plan to keep having her try these meals each time because I know tastes change, but it doesn't make for much of a meal at 3-4 bites. I remember sometimes as kids we were allowed an "alternative" like cereal or a sandwhich but I don't feel like it was a consistent rule and I don't want her manipulating every meal in to "I don't like that" when in fact she does. Other than the tilapia the only other thing I eat somewhat frequently that she really doesn't like is beef stew so this doesn't come up too often. Does anyone else have suggestions for an otherwise really good eater who just doesn't always like what the family is having?
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if he's just being 5 and saying he doesn't like chicken and rice (or whatever)... when I know he powered down 2 servings last time, I'll remind him that he likes it and have him eat a bite. if he insists he doesn't like it (and dude, there are times I just don't feel like having something) he can have cereal.
I have had food issues, so I don't want to make him eating a "thing", you know? he eats healthy balanced meals 9 times out of 10, if he has one night of cereal he'll live. and truthfully, I've see. him make a meal out of "sides" - rice and veggies, salad and potatoes... whatever.
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One thing I might suggest is not making an entire meal that Kate doesn't care for. For example, if she doesn't care for tilapia and white potatoes, change it up and make tilapia and rice pilaf with green beans and forgo the white potatoes. Then she could eat a couple bites of tilapia and have rice and beans with maybe an extra side of fruit on the side or something. Make the white potatoes another night with a different protein she does like and she can do the same that night - have mostly the food she does like and just a taste of the one thing she doesn't.
This is what my mom always did and we grew up knowing that we were not allowed to just say we didn't like a meal and get to have a whole other meal, but we also knew that if we truly didn't like something, we wouldnt be required to eat a normal portion of it either. This also taught us to discreetly and respectfully take a small portion of unfamiliar or non favorite foods when invited away for a meal, thus not being picky and rude towards the hostess. So many people I know now who were allowed to consistently have a different meal whenever they said they "didn't like something", are still super picky today, won't eat a meal unless it's just how they like it, won't eat at certain places because they can't find anything they like on the menu, etc.
It's awesome that Kate will try anything!! I wouldn't forced her to eat large amounts of foods she truly doesn't like. I can say from experience it doesn't help you learn to like them!! (my mom was a stickler for milk and insisted I had to drink one glass a day even though I HATED it and still do to this day!) but I do believe that teaching children to try a little is a good practice. Honestly one of my biggest annoyances is kids who are constantly allowed to decide they don't like what's being served and getting a different meal made for them. What happens when they're 10 and invited to a sleep over and the menu isn't the one of their choosing and they announce they don't like what's being served and can I have cereal or something else I instead?! I've heard kids do that... it isn't pretty.
If he isn't eating the same meal as me because I know it's something he doesn't like, I prepare something very easy: noodles, grilled cheese, pb&j, hot dog, or fish sticks. I'm not interested in preparing two entire meals anymore! And I always put some of what I made on his plate . . . just in case.
And I also offer something substantial for dessert if he doesn't touch his meal - fruit, yogurt, cereal bar, etc. In my house you don't have to clean your plate or even eat dinner to get dessert because I feel that encourages eating issues later. (Have to fight my dad on that one when he's over!) But we sure don't have ice cream on nights when no dinner was eaten.
Being in school,help because he is willing to try foods his friends like