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Table Manners
TxMoms2B
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C is almost 20 months now and is such a joy...most of the time! I swear he's in a hurry to get to the terrible 2's. He has some bad little habbits, but the most annoying are his table manners.
It seems as he gets more control of utensils and cups, his tabble manners get worse! He can control forks and spoons well, but he'll routinely throw them then ask for them back. He almost always dumps his food/cup at some point during the meal....mostly on himself and the floor. Usually the dumping comes towards the end of a meal, but tonight it was the first thing he did. Tonight's meal was something he enjoys to eat, so I know that it's not because he doesn't like it. We're not showing him this behavior, and once we see him act out, we remove him/the food. We make a big deal about using his utensils and being a big boy. Tonight he used his spoon to scoop a bite of pasta, ate it, then turned his plate upside down and shook it onto the floor. He then threw his spoon and cup. However, he was very upset when we tried to take the mess away.
So, how do I instill good table manners, without taking away his independence of using his own utensils? I'm tired of baths and mopping after every meal!
It seems as he gets more control of utensils and cups, his tabble manners get worse! He can control forks and spoons well, but he'll routinely throw them then ask for them back. He almost always dumps his food/cup at some point during the meal....mostly on himself and the floor. Usually the dumping comes towards the end of a meal, but tonight it was the first thing he did. Tonight's meal was something he enjoys to eat, so I know that it's not because he doesn't like it. We're not showing him this behavior, and once we see him act out, we remove him/the food. We make a big deal about using his utensils and being a big boy. Tonight he used his spoon to scoop a bite of pasta, ate it, then turned his plate upside down and shook it onto the floor. He then threw his spoon and cup. However, he was very upset when we tried to take the mess away.
So, how do I instill good table manners, without taking away his independence of using his own utensils? I'm tired of baths and mopping after every meal!
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When we get him from time out we repeat what he did wrong "no hitting" and then have him appologize (he says "aww mommy" and then lays his head on you and rubs your arm like he's consoling us) and then say I love you. But 10 seconds later it's the same or another offense! We call him a sour patch kid because first he's sour and then he's sweet.
Shanny, he does sound a lot like L. He made such a mess once I took him outside, still strapped in his booster, and sprayed him off with the hose!
4.5 years!
With L, she would get one or two warnings, and then she was removed from the table. That usually upset her pretty substantially, so her learning curve was short on that one.
I was also sure to reinforce good manners or behavior by saying, "see how Mommy does it? Mommy doesn't bang her fork on the table. That's not good manners. Mommy uses her fork to put food in her mouth. That's good manners." Although it feels like talking to a brick wall in that moment, she will almost always repeat back my little lesson within the next day or at the next meal, so I KNOW it sinks in.
Hang in there. If nothing else, dropping food will lose it's fascination soon.