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4-year-old emotions
mel
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I'm trying to gauge what is typical for this age. My kids just recently turned 4. If you have kids around this age or have had experience with them, I'd love your feedback! Of course I have multiple kids but I am interested in some comparisons with kids who aren't mine.
When a child is embarrassed (by a rare potty accident for example), is it typical for them to cry? apologize? How hard and how long? I'm guessing this differs by personality and mood, but I'm just looking for a general idea, if it's even possible to have that.
When a child is embarrassed (by a rare potty accident for example), is it typical for them to cry? apologize? How hard and how long? I'm guessing this differs by personality and mood, but I'm just looking for a general idea, if it's even possible to have that.
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Anyway, I really don't think that was meant as a jab. I do hope everything is ok with your little girl and whatever you're concerned about turns out well.
I know I've been vague here, so it's hard for you all to guess, but I am pretty sure she has some special needs and that has been difficult to navigate. I was really just looking for what has been seen in other 4-year-olds (or late threes) because I am pretty sure I know the exact "cause" of the issue, and it's nothing external.
At the time, I didn't understand that autism was a spectrum disorder, and my understanding of autism was "Rain Man". I did not choose to get him evaluated until he was older, because I feared labels. Later, I learned that he had high functioning autism/ aspergers syndrome (depending on who you speak with - for me, it is essentially the same thing). It may be that what he has really dealt with is ADHD and giftedness (some of the behaviors of both overlap).
He was/is able to function just fine, but there has been challenges over the years. Today, the average observer wouldn't really know that he has AS, but he definitely has quirks to his personality, for sure. The biggest challenges that he dealt with over the years has greatly improved. I attribute this to maturity on his part, and education on my part. (Actually, I have made sure that he is educated on this, too). I think the biggest challenge for him going forward is "common sense" things that he sometimes just doesn't think about. He is 20 years old.
That's our story, maybe it resonates with you. Good luck. It has helped me to remind myself that what we are dealing with is a disability - a child with diabetes would not be subject to discipline/ridicule/anger, etc. for their inability to control their blood sugars, neither should a child with AS or ADHD, etc, be treated that way for their inability to control their reactons to a world they sometimes have difficulty navigating. Also, I frequently re-educate myself on the disorder, to remind myself of the issues that can reasonably be attributed to a disability.