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How much to believe? Help!! Possible abuse or something.
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Maggie has been going to 2 day cares this year - 1 an in home daycare and the other a center based daycare. The reason being that my work schedule requires me to work some rather odd hours 2 days a week. So the center based daycare is great and Maggie loves her teacher.
There are some questions about the home based daycare. Maggie has begun to fight me when I take her to this home based daycare. To the point that today she stayed home with my mom because the fight was so intense. When Maggie is there she loves the lady - but when she is on the way there she rebels.
Today, she and my mom had a chat about what is going on at this home based daycare Sophie's- and Maggie said that Sophie son has been hitting her ("socking" her and she demonstrated this to my mom). My mom asked what happened then, Maggie said she would tell Sophie and then Eli (the son) would get slapped. Maggie also made a claim that Sophie has hit her - though my mom was not sure exactly what the situation was other than it involved cars.
Since Maggie started going here in July - her speech has gone backwards she is talking a lot more baby talk. She has also started to refuse to sleep with anyone but me, and is super clingy to me - which is different than in the past. Maggie used to be confident and independent.
My mom doesn't want Maggie going back here. I am just not sure how much to believe, is she making it up? What if she isn't? How do I know?
I need advice.
There are some questions about the home based daycare. Maggie has begun to fight me when I take her to this home based daycare. To the point that today she stayed home with my mom because the fight was so intense. When Maggie is there she loves the lady - but when she is on the way there she rebels.
Today, she and my mom had a chat about what is going on at this home based daycare Sophie's- and Maggie said that Sophie son has been hitting her ("socking" her and she demonstrated this to my mom). My mom asked what happened then, Maggie said she would tell Sophie and then Eli (the son) would get slapped. Maggie also made a claim that Sophie has hit her - though my mom was not sure exactly what the situation was other than it involved cars.
Since Maggie started going here in July - her speech has gone backwards she is talking a lot more baby talk. She has also started to refuse to sleep with anyone but me, and is super clingy to me - which is different than in the past. Maggie used to be confident and independent.
My mom doesn't want Maggie going back here. I am just not sure how much to believe, is she making it up? What if she isn't? How do I know?
I need advice.
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
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What your child is doing based on my own experience is a red flag...Go with your mama gut...
The next day she left work mid-day and when she walked into the center she saw the staff spanking children, they had babies sitting around in just diapers....of course when it was typical pick-up time parents always came to pick up their children and were greeted by a happy staff. Apparently I was being spanked because I couldn't tie my shoes- I was 2!!!
Needless to say that was my last day there and my great-aunt stepped in and cared for me.
Granted this was long ago and things were handled differently, I do know the center was shut down. And thankfully my parents reacted quickly to my distress, so that being said, I think I would also believe her. Maybe you, or your parents can pop in unexpectedly and see what you encounter. Maybe talk with any of the other parents that have children there as well
Good luck-
4.5 years!
On a grown-up front this sucks - I have known this person for 20 years. I went to school with her and trusted her. I am disappointed that I made a choice that jeopardized Maggie's safety. I will do better.
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
Sorry if you've said this in the past, but is your mom available for your odd hours during those two days? Can Maggie stay with her, at least until you make other arrangements?
TTC No. 2 since Aug. 2014; IVF #1 - Cxld; IVF #2 - BFN
If Maggie is getting hit at daycare, the provider should (a) be on top of it, and (b) be informing you. Kids have "fights" but you break them up, and inform the parent at pick up time of the incident. I strongly disagree with providers allowing thier own children being bullies - part of the reason I love in home care is because every day is a learning experience for my kids on proper behaviours in group settings.
Pull her from that place if you can, even if its just the kid shes not getting along with, it does not sound like a good fit for her.
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K-8, M-4 & G-15 mo
So glad I have awesome parents.
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
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