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preciousgift
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Ok.. well.
Here is my dilemma. I was not able to try this month of October due to known donor not being available at the last minute, and a weird cycle too.
So, if I try in November, I would have a baby in August.
The problem... I work as a manager of a very small motel (small in number of rooms). I am the sole employee. I also live on site (which is the ONLY reason I am still working there). You would be shocked if you knew how little money it pays... But, the reason I stay is in the event (when ) I get preggers, I will be able to keep baby with me all the time, since I work and live in the same place.
BUT- If I have a baby in August (saying I get a BFP in November), it will be peak tourist season. I also have to clean the rooms myself, which is a lot of work for one person. That would mean I would be about 6th months preggers in May, 7 months in June, 8 months in July, and give birth in August.
Again, it is hard enough to due all the physical aspects of cleaning the rooms by myself in the hot summer. But, I can't imagine how it would be to do when very pregnant...?
I am 39- will be 40 pretty soon.
QUESTION- Should I try in November anyway? (I will be using frozen swimmers)... or should I wait to try till January or February...?
If I was in my twenties... I would wait. But, I feel like every month is crucial at my age
Oh.. I will be doing a home IUI (with cath in the uterus).
Also, not sure if owner would fire me if I was preggers?
HELP... what would you do?
Here is my dilemma. I was not able to try this month of October due to known donor not being available at the last minute, and a weird cycle too.
So, if I try in November, I would have a baby in August.
The problem... I work as a manager of a very small motel (small in number of rooms). I am the sole employee. I also live on site (which is the ONLY reason I am still working there). You would be shocked if you knew how little money it pays... But, the reason I stay is in the event (when ) I get preggers, I will be able to keep baby with me all the time, since I work and live in the same place.
BUT- If I have a baby in August (saying I get a BFP in November), it will be peak tourist season. I also have to clean the rooms myself, which is a lot of work for one person. That would mean I would be about 6th months preggers in May, 7 months in June, 8 months in July, and give birth in August.
Again, it is hard enough to due all the physical aspects of cleaning the rooms by myself in the hot summer. But, I can't imagine how it would be to do when very pregnant...?
I am 39- will be 40 pretty soon.
QUESTION- Should I try in November anyway? (I will be using frozen swimmers)... or should I wait to try till January or February...?
If I was in my twenties... I would wait. But, I feel like every month is crucial at my age
Oh.. I will be doing a home IUI (with cath in the uterus).
Also, not sure if owner would fire me if I was preggers?
HELP... what would you do?
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My Chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3615fd
In trying/tracking mode. Known donor turned bf! ;D Riding this roller coaster known as my life and excited for 2013. Ttc #1 hoping for pink. I can't wait to be a Mommy!
1-4 Bfn 5-bf?
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There are many jobs that offer housing with them if you want to keep them in mind. They might just be better deals as well. (Live in Nanny comes to mind, or live in housekeeper, since you are already used to cleaning, live in house manager.. all these you could potentially do with your baby, for the right family)
Good luck!
TTC No. 2 since Aug. 2014; IVF #1 - Cxld; IVF #2 - BFN
Just my opinion... I wouldn't wait due to possibilities (ESP such shaky ones) in the future. Life can change in a moment's time and no matter how much we plan, sometimes life just happens and in the end, it all works out!
TTC #2 11/2012 -- BFP!!!
Thanks everyone for your opinions so far.
The owner of this motel said for three weeks he would come down to mow the grass, and never did. So, I hired someone to cut it b/c it was obviously not looking nice. Well.. he did that a second time, and I mentioned to his employee, who I have become friends with, at his other motel a few hours away, that I was going to have someone cut the grass again, b/c it had been a few weeks. She told me, that he said to her that if I had someone cut the grass, he would FIRE ME! That is the type of person I am dealing with.
The pay is VERY low... but again, my plan was to have a baby hopefully in the fall ( I really wanted to be giving birth THIS month of October). The offseason is very laid back and I have a lot of "free" time as long as I am here most of the time. I rent the rooms mostly weekly and they do their own room cleaning. So, that would be SO ideal if I had a baby in my arms right now.. I would have about 7 1/2 months of really low key responsibilities,, and have all that time to spend with baby... That is THE ONLY reason I stay here.
I don't know if I would do housekeeping (like a live in housekeeper) for someone b/c I actually HATE that part of my job. I am very meticulous about it, but I really dread it.
Flowergirl- I have thought about all that you mentioned also. And, that is a concern.
I am keeping my eyes out for other positions. I have worked in the hotel business for the last 6 years. I don't necessarily want to stay in that industry anymore. I would like a more 9-5 job where I actually had time off!
Even though I am typing this now, I can't really go anywhere b/c I am waiting for a guest who will be renting a room for a week. They may show up in a few minutes.. maybe it won't be till 10 hours later.... so that kind of throws off my whole day.
That is why I am able to be online so much....
Thanks for all of your opinions so far... welcome any and all other comments. This is kind of hard for me to decide b/c I had my images of having lots of time for baby in the off season, and I feel like I get another job where I don't live on site, then baby will be in daycare all the time....
But, I am also wondering if the stress of working here, and dealing with a problem owner, is perhaps hampering my chances of getting pregnant?
........................... Trying again soon ..................................