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custody update
kstarr
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i just got back from ohio on saturday with my nephew in tow. custody isn't legal yet, we have to file a bunch of paperwork with the courts. and i'll have to go back to ohio for the hearing. that won't be until next year though. and as i type this, he's taking his placement test for the homeschooling program i want to put him in.
i'm so glad i was able to get him away from his parents. the night before we left he stayed with his mom. she decided it was a good idea to get him high. i was pissed. he's going through a crash course of how i run my house. we've told him there will be no smoking or drinking. he's not used to planned meals or any kind of structure. he tried to convince my DH that sleeping 15 hours a day was necessary. this is addressed to a military man who sleeps maybe 6 hours a night.
but overall, so far so good. he says he feels at home here and it's my goal to keep it that way.
i'm so glad i was able to get him away from his parents. the night before we left he stayed with his mom. she decided it was a good idea to get him high. i was pissed. he's going through a crash course of how i run my house. we've told him there will be no smoking or drinking. he's not used to planned meals or any kind of structure. he tried to convince my DH that sleeping 15 hours a day was necessary. this is addressed to a military man who sleeps maybe 6 hours a night.
but overall, so far so good. he says he feels at home here and it's my goal to keep it that way.
ICI #1 April 2012- BFN ICI #2 March 2013 BFN
DH had vasectomy reversal October 2013. It worked!!!
Counts are low, varicocele surgery was in August 2014.
IVF February 2016 w/ICSI transferred 2 perfect blastocysts. It's twins!!!!
Two perfect, beautiful boys born 10/24/16!!
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TTC No. 2 since Aug. 2014; IVF #1 - Cxld; IVF #2 - BFN
thanks for the support. i'm sure i'll be posting more as issues come up. going from no children to having a 14 year old is a huge change.
ICI #1 April 2012- BFN ICI #2 March 2013 BFN
DH had vasectomy reversal October 2013. It worked!!!
Counts are low, varicocele surgery was in August 2014.
IVF February 2016 w/ICSI transferred 2 perfect blastocysts. It's twins!!!!
Two perfect, beautiful boys born 10/24/16!!
I just turned 50 and fabulous!!! Enjoying life with my amazing family!!
Mom to Rachel 33, Bethany 30, Rebekah 30, Zachrey 20 and several angel babies
Grandma to Larissa 11, Brittney 11, Trevor 11, Destiny 7, Jayvin 6, Jackxon 3, Kaleb Joshua Rian 1. Grandbaby #8, Sariah Grace born 11-17-16
TTC #1 5/16/11 = BFP 14 DPI / TTC #2 11/16/12 = No O; 4/12/13= BFN; 6/9/13 = BFP!! (11 DPI) - MC 5wk5dys / TTC#3 3 BFN's and 4th try 10/21/13 = BFP!!!! (Squinter at 10dpi!)
Needless to say, I moved out at 16 lets just say they never had children..
Beware, the moods and not the same as typically teenage moods they are moods to test his place, your patiences and what he can get away with.
I babysat for my brothers commander and threw a party at this house...
What will be your life saver is finding something that he is good at and then really supporting it.. such as if he like dragons encourage the collection if its sports sign him up.. Being that I will probably assumme mom and dad didn't encourage much sports you may have to find that inner sport that he actually excells in.
Watch the therapy so much you are just a nag... and he will go backwards.. Since drugs have been an active part of his life you need to see what can be done to keep him from finding those same type of friends again.
Lastlly if you live on base, you know you are accountable for everything your dependents do sooooo.....
good luck
OneSmallStep- DH smokes. so did my nephew. but my nephew only did when he could get his hands on them. DH has been keeping them away from Devlin. so far it's been successful and he hasn't been mean. my DH is trying to cut back. he has his good days and bad days.
kitty- i know he loves to draw, he loves music, he wants to start a sword collection. he wants to get into boxing. he really is a good kid. as for therapy, i may be a nag but he has a lot of anger and resentment issues. all he wants is attention from his mother and she's more concerned about his brother and nursing school. his brother, who is younger and stays out of trouble, is favored. she caters to his every whim. and Devlin sees it. he's hurt and mad. right now, the only people he has contact with are the people i'm around. i want to get him settled in schooling and a routine before i introduce him to friends. he knows that the crap he pulled back home will not fly here. he knows that there will be absolutely no drugs or drinking. and he knows that what he does reflects on DH. we discussed all this before he got here. we aren't new to the military. DH is just about ready to retire.
ICI #1 April 2012- BFN ICI #2 March 2013 BFN
DH had vasectomy reversal October 2013. It worked!!!
Counts are low, varicocele surgery was in August 2014.
IVF February 2016 w/ICSI transferred 2 perfect blastocysts. It's twins!!!!
Two perfect, beautiful boys born 10/24/16!!
I just turned 50 and fabulous!!! Enjoying life with my amazing family!!
Mom to Rachel 33, Bethany 30, Rebekah 30, Zachrey 20 and several angel babies
Grandma to Larissa 11, Brittney 11, Trevor 11, Destiny 7, Jayvin 6, Jackxon 3, Kaleb Joshua Rian 1. Grandbaby #8, Sariah Grace born 11-17-16
ICI #1 April 2012- BFN ICI #2 March 2013 BFN
DH had vasectomy reversal October 2013. It worked!!!
Counts are low, varicocele surgery was in August 2014.
IVF February 2016 w/ICSI transferred 2 perfect blastocysts. It's twins!!!!
Two perfect, beautiful boys born 10/24/16!!