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Male involvement day at preschool
roses25
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Aiden's preschool is having a male involvement day at school where they have dads, brothers, grandpas, uncles, close friends, or community members come decorate donuts with the kids and then listen to a story. Aiden is very close to his babysitter's husband. He's like a grandpa to Aiden. I asked his wife about it and she kind of laughed saying she didn't think he'd want to do that. I told Aiden we'd go back tomorrow and ask him because he wasn't home, so I'm hoping he'll go with Aiden. I don't really understand our sitter because she dislikes doing any activities outside the house like story hour, etc. with Aiden.
He is the only male that I think Aiden would want to attend. Aiden is somewhat close to some of our neighbors but not close enough to make them take time off of work for this. So if this man can't attend what would you do? Would you still send Aiden to school? Would you keep him home? Would you go as his mom even though your not a male? Or something else?
Carolyn
He is the only male that I think Aiden would want to attend. Aiden is somewhat close to some of our neighbors but not close enough to make them take time off of work for this. So if this man can't attend what would you do? Would you still send Aiden to school? Would you keep him home? Would you go as his mom even though your not a male? Or something else?
Carolyn
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Since the babysitter had such a response I would consider is it worth my child learning the lesson that people can say no - take a chance that the husband will say not to Aiden's face. Or, call and ask him before you go.
Your recent posts about Aiden, it seems like he is having a hard time adjusting - I would be working on building him and not letting him get broken down.
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
TTC #2 11/2012 -- BFP!!!
DS (7) - d#470
Boy, n.: a noise with dirt on it.
I do think that it's important for him to learn now that there isn't a dad in the family and that he doesn't have a close male figure. He may be disappointed but I think that kids need to learn to deal with disappointment. Even if the babysitter's husband were to go, at some point he'll have to deal with the issue. It seems better to do it now than later. Like Kari said, I'm sure they will put kids without men there with other kids who do.
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
I completely disagree that there is some "lesson" here that Aiden needs to learn. It was your (our) decision to bring these children in to the world without Fathers and I think situations like this call for more than just "get over it" (not that anyone said that but that's how it sounds to me). It is a great time to open up dialogue with him about not having a Dad and what means to him.
I asked Kate and gave the options (my first thought was that I would keep her home but it occured to me that she might have an opinion!). She said she still wanted to go to school and hang out with her friends and their Dads. When given the option for me to go she was all over that too. What does Aiden think?
i think giving him the option of going or staying home is good, too. gently explain to him what the situation will be (if the sitter's dad isn't available) and see if he still wants to go.
i also agree with asking the sitter's dad over the phone versus in front of aiden.
good luck!
not every child or family has a "dad", but I think it's fair to say most kids have a male family member or friend who could participate in a function like this.
DS (7) - d#470
Boy, n.: a noise with dirt on it.
I'm just saying the school is not evil for trying to involve males in kids lives. having seen this in my sons preschool and elementary school - there are always a bunch of kids who don't participate, for any number of reasons.
DS (7) - d#470
Boy, n.: a noise with dirt on it.