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KD offer and legal issues
Ent9
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So this morning a coworker offered to be my donor. I didn't see that coming at all. He said he would sign a contract and go get tested for STDs. I asked him why he would want to and he said no one should have to pay for sperm and that I can have his lol.
My question is since I live in Illinois im only in a civil union not married. Would my wife automatically be known as the other parent? And does anyone know of a good donor contract? ...I haven't decided yet..thanks!
My question is since I live in Illinois im only in a civil union not married. Would my wife automatically be known as the other parent? And does anyone know of a good donor contract? ...I haven't decided yet..thanks!
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It would suck if my wife wouldn't be recognized as the other parent though. I could not find any info on married gay parental rights, but im not sure where to look.
Also, and here comes my paranoia, I'd have the donor tested now and then wait six months and test him again assuming he only has one constant or no sexual partners.
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..and it says for heterosexual couples that going the doctor route would make husband the father, but I'm not sure if that would apply to me.
We lived in MA when we had our daughter. My wife was able to have her name put on the birth certificate as soon as our daughter was born. BUT, we still did the 2nd parent adoption to be safe. If I remember correctly we had to submit a receipt from the sperm bank in order to prove that we used anonymous donor sperm. I'm assuming to show that there was no "father" that would be interested in having rights to our child. Which is why I'm saying you might want to contact a lawyer to see what the specifics are in your state.
Good luck!
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Personally, what I will put out there is unless you have a great relationship with this peson, and are 100% confident, don't do it. Contracts are all fine and good but will not stand up in court other then to show intent. Also, don't ever name your KD on birth certificate or legal forms. If you must, put "father unknown" and explain in a separate area it was a donor conception. Doesn't mean he can't come and ask for DNA testing down the line, but helps a bit from legal standpoint.
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Also, with a KD that you're going to see all the time, you may want to clarify if he is just donating, or will want a role in the baby's life (uncle, godfather). Just need to make sure everyone is on the same page. If you are, a KD can be an awesome way to start your family!
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