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When does it get easier and what is your favorite age
njmomma
Posts: 531
Basically that's my question, well, maybe 2 questions in 1 topic.
Personally, I find it more challenging raising a toddler than a baby. My daughter will be turning 2 years old in 2 weeks, and temper tantrums are in full affect. Every.Single.Day. It's tough to deal with temper tantrums, even though I know that they are part of normal development in toddlers. When she was a baby it was little easier, maybe except for that I didn't sleep much, but other than that, once I developed my routine, it was fine.
With a toddler, I can't stop worrying. She climbs every single piece of furniture, doesn't stay still for more than 0.5 seconds, still puts every single thing off the floor in her mouth. Yes, this stage is fun and fascinating too, as my daughter is learning so many things now, she is singing, dancing, counting till 14, and it's so fun to hear her talk now, but her most favorite word that I keep on hearing a lot remains "No!"
So my question is: does it get little easier when they get older? I mean, will there be a time when I will be able to do little things for myself, like having my cup of coffee that's still hot and a meal that's still warm and go somewhere public with my daughter and stay there longer than 15 minutes, lol. Please tell me it does get little easier. Thanks.
Personally, I find it more challenging raising a toddler than a baby. My daughter will be turning 2 years old in 2 weeks, and temper tantrums are in full affect. Every.Single.Day. It's tough to deal with temper tantrums, even though I know that they are part of normal development in toddlers. When she was a baby it was little easier, maybe except for that I didn't sleep much, but other than that, once I developed my routine, it was fine.
With a toddler, I can't stop worrying. She climbs every single piece of furniture, doesn't stay still for more than 0.5 seconds, still puts every single thing off the floor in her mouth. Yes, this stage is fun and fascinating too, as my daughter is learning so many things now, she is singing, dancing, counting till 14, and it's so fun to hear her talk now, but her most favorite word that I keep on hearing a lot remains "No!"
So my question is: does it get little easier when they get older? I mean, will there be a time when I will be able to do little things for myself, like having my cup of coffee that's still hot and a meal that's still warm and go somewhere public with my daughter and stay there longer than 15 minutes, lol. Please tell me it does get little easier. Thanks.
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I think that part of the reason we are smooth sailing at 5 is because I have laid a lot of ground work - mostly in the last 2-3 years. Kate has always been asked to clean up her toys, put her dirty clothes in the hamper etc. - since she was tiny since she started walking at 9 months and was pretty sharp too . But when I bought this house 3 years she was 2 and 4 months, that's when I really focused in on her being able to help as much as she could. She has been told since the beginning that not only do the dirty clothes go in the hamper but they go in properly (not inside out). It sounds silly but little things like this save me a ton of time when doing chores and she is a huge help now and does things without being asked. Was it always easy? NO, it would have been much easier to let her play happily with blocks while I emptied the dishwasher by myself. But now, I can get something else done (something she can't do yet like cook dinner) while she empties the dishwasher by herself. It has all been a process and there are many days I still have to explain to her that we are a team and the more she helps me do things that need to be done, the more time we have to do fun things we want to do like go to the park, zoo etc.
All the toddler stuff - the climbing, the tantrums etc gets easier too but the more structure you have in terms of everyday life and expectations the sooner, more consistently it happens.
Lastly, try not to say no all the time. It is so hard but it really does seem to help. Can I have a cookie? Not right now, instead of no. Maybe later. It can make a big difference in how much she says it to you. Also, try not to give her the opportunity by asking yes/no questions. If it is time to get dressed for school don't ask her if she is ready to get dressed. Of course she will say no. Tell her it is time to get dressed.
One minute I'd give anything to go back to about 14 months old (my favorite age) but then I read something like this which makes the reality seem not so dreamy as I like to remember. But, enjoy!
I am really enjoying 5. Kate reading to me, we are going to see her first play in a few weeks, she is on her first soccer team. A lot of big girl stuff that we are really enjoying!
Now our current 2 yo son......he is WAY more terrible 2s than both his sisters were combined and he got a jump start on them at about 22 months old. So I am thinking positively that his 3s will NOT be as bad.....
ETA: Even with all this age 10 months to 35 11/12 months is still my fav.....so far. Our oldest becoming a big girl at age 6 is pretty cool too.
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This article put it into words quite well with some humor (which you'll want to keep intact for your own sanity): http://www.scarymommy.com/three-is-more-terrible-than-two/
October 2014
ETA: my co-worker with a daughter and twin boys - all teens now - says ages 6-9 are the best! But she also likes that while she's still in bed, her kids are up, fed, and dressed and stop by to say they're going to school.
At 6 and almost 3, no more naps in our house, we can really go places and do stuff now with ease. Mainly with just a snack bag (and sometimes a stroller if a lot of walking). It still takes us awhile to get out of the house to go anywhere, but not like before when we needed a diaper bag...someone was always to blame for forgotten something or other....
Our kids have always been in full time daycare, then full time preschool, and now jack is in kindergarten, so these transitions were big, but not the first big one.
We really want to do a Disneyland trip this fall and think Emerson is just about old enough to really enjoy it.
Activities are part of our every weekend now. Soccer and swimming. Usually we just do one activity at a time, but have some overlap right now.
We would call ourselves still in the weeds a bit though, as Emerson still wakes and comes to our room most nights...we put her straight back to bed. Then she wakes again about 4am and we usually let her stay in bed with us until she is awake for good at 5:30-6. She still has tantrums, and a short attention span, but we can see the gradual movement toward less of this...so a light at the end of the tunnel. I will be both happy and sad when these are gone. She starts her move from daycare to preschool this September and I know we can expect major growth once there. I'm excited for her as I know she is ready, but sad for the end of her baby days.
My favorite stages have been from about 11-17 months and 4 years old. Four was just magical. I loved it!