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I thought I was 1 and done...
annerbones
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So, life is calming down - I have a great job for next year. I am in the process of buying a house here. All I can think about is expanding my family. If I do it - it has to be soon, I am 34. If I try this summer Maggie and the baby would be 5 years apart.
If you have a large age gap between kids - what are the positives and negatives of this? What do I need to be prepared for?
If you have a large age gap between kids - what are the positives and negatives of this? What do I need to be prepared for?
Progesterone therapy and baby aspirin daily
Two miscarriages in between (August 2012 - same donor as Maggie, and December 2014 with husband)
Maggie
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It's not all smooth sailing, of course. They are siblings...they fight/argue. But we have FAR more drama from our first 2 (they are 16 months apart) than from either of them with the baby. I say go for it!
The only negative I can think of is I hate taking little babies to Disneyland. Its a big trip for us but I want to take the boys again soon. I was waiting until they both reached 48 inches but now we have little Miss E
There is some jealousy but I roll with it. The oldest sometimes thinks I love my bio child most. The middle thinks I favor the girls over him. The youngest complains when I hush her interruptions that I have no time for her. But this would be the same regardless of age gap! As for an age-related con, as jdiana mentioned there are age appropriate activities to balance. I can't be at a horror film and basketball court and playdate at the same time. And these interests do not cross-connect. I don't sweat it. Some things we do as a family and some activities are done with friends. Everyone loved Frozen! When I go see X-men next week, the little one will have a play date. When I take the girls to the nail salon, the boy plays with friends ... or X-box (lol).
Basically everything works itself out. Like my favorite saying, "life finds a way!"
I would not have minded another year between....I'm already mourning the loss of babyhood...
But I think the pros of having siblings by far outweighs the cons. I always think back about how, when my mom died, my sister and I drew much closer to one another for support and encouragement. Growing up we always had each others' backs. And as a teacher I know I can always recognize an only child because they have a different set of expectations and behaviors than children with siblings. Having a sibling teaches patience and tolerance and that the universe doesn't revolve around you.