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Start K on time, or hold back a year?
Kari
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Justin's K screening came back the other day. I knew he was having trouble with visual discrimination, but I didn't realize it was "significantly below age level." His visual memory and fine motor skills were also "moderately below age level."
The day after I got this glowing report, his daycare plans for next year fell through. I'd lined up a daycare provider back in February but, after meeting Justin, she somehow gave away her two remaining spots to other families. He was really anxious at the initial meeting and not at all himself, so it didn't surprise me in the end. It just would've been nice to know it wouldn't work back in April when we visited and not yesterday.
I'm contemplating a few different plans:
1) Look for another decent daycare in our little town, and plan on having him do two years of K
2) Keep him in his daycare preK for another year
3) Start him in another district (using his existing daycare) for this year, then enroll him in K again in our hometown next year so he won't have the stigma of being retained
The only thing I don't like about #2 is that they nap in the afternoon and he's already dropped the nap.
To add to the situation, Justin is seeing a therapist for anxiety issues. Later this summer he'll see a developmental pediatrician for possible ADHD, SPD, and anxiety diagnoses. This past year we've been on the Feingold diet and discovered that he has intolerances to about 40 food chemicals and additives that have been affecting everything from his sleep to his emotional balance for the past several years. His therapist feels that his emotional maturity and some developmental skills may have stopped developing due to his nervous system always being on edge from the food intolerances.
Anyway, he's got a lot going on. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? I've heard that no one regrets holding a child back in the end. I'm just not sure what he should do THIS year. :rolleyes:
Oh, and I've been playing with a fourth scenario. I work in two different schools in two different towns 10 minutes apart. I work 2.5 days in each school. Both have strong K programs. I can't work out Justin going to K full-time in either school because they start at different times and the travel between the two to pick him up or drop him off just don't work. But, if the school was willing, he could go to one of the schools 3 days a week for this year. I'm not sure how a superintendent's agreement would work for that scenario, though. Most people wouldn't ask for their kid to attend kindergarten only part-time.
The day after I got this glowing report, his daycare plans for next year fell through. I'd lined up a daycare provider back in February but, after meeting Justin, she somehow gave away her two remaining spots to other families. He was really anxious at the initial meeting and not at all himself, so it didn't surprise me in the end. It just would've been nice to know it wouldn't work back in April when we visited and not yesterday.
I'm contemplating a few different plans:
1) Look for another decent daycare in our little town, and plan on having him do two years of K
2) Keep him in his daycare preK for another year
3) Start him in another district (using his existing daycare) for this year, then enroll him in K again in our hometown next year so he won't have the stigma of being retained
The only thing I don't like about #2 is that they nap in the afternoon and he's already dropped the nap.
To add to the situation, Justin is seeing a therapist for anxiety issues. Later this summer he'll see a developmental pediatrician for possible ADHD, SPD, and anxiety diagnoses. This past year we've been on the Feingold diet and discovered that he has intolerances to about 40 food chemicals and additives that have been affecting everything from his sleep to his emotional balance for the past several years. His therapist feels that his emotional maturity and some developmental skills may have stopped developing due to his nervous system always being on edge from the food intolerances.
Anyway, he's got a lot going on. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? I've heard that no one regrets holding a child back in the end. I'm just not sure what he should do THIS year. :rolleyes:
Oh, and I've been playing with a fourth scenario. I work in two different schools in two different towns 10 minutes apart. I work 2.5 days in each school. Both have strong K programs. I can't work out Justin going to K full-time in either school because they start at different times and the travel between the two to pick him up or drop him off just don't work. But, if the school was willing, he could go to one of the schools 3 days a week for this year. I'm not sure how a superintendent's agreement would work for that scenario, though. Most people wouldn't ask for their kid to attend kindergarten only part-time.
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I think you're headed for two years before he gets to first grade, no matter what you choose. The question of cost and fit for him, with least impact on his anxiety are what I would consider. Kindergarten these days is HARD. It's a LOT of work and expectation and reading by the end of the year, and just plain tough on kids. The majority of my clients in the Fall are always kindergarteners, because it's just too much for them.
I probably would be inclined to leave him where he is for another year and reconsider K next year.
I understand why you would consider part time K, but I don't see it as a viable option even in the unlikely case that the superintendent agreed. It seems like it would be disruptive to the continuity and flow of the rest of the class to have a student who is out so frequently (and would need to be caught up on days he is there), and I worry it would only exacerbate his anxiety to be constantly behind the others.
These decisions are so stressful and difficult. You are such a great advocate for him that I have no doubt whatever you choose will help him succeed.
What services can your school offer that you are already providing? Can therapists come to school? Does your school district offer a developmental Pre-K? Maybe talk to the principals and k teachers at the school and see what their experiences ahve been and what kind of advice they can offer.
Holding him back isn't a bad thing, but if he has been preparing for K all year and all his friends are going to K - that might cause some anxiety for him.
Isn't anxiety the pits!?!
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But if you think he will be THAT far behind everyone and it will cause huge frustration and anxiety then I would see if you could find a different daycare where they don't force a nap.
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