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Mom's night out
K&H
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How do people handle "mom's night out" at your kid's school? E is starting preschool in two weeks and they're having this mom's night out thing next week. Both go? One goes? The more visible, school-involved mom goes? The less visible one to make a point?
Aside from the rant I could go off on about the whole concept of this meaning that moms are "stuck" at home and presumably dad's should "babysit" so that moms can escape every so often...
We are totally 100% out in every situation, so no hesitation there.. but we are also the only two-mom family, so theoretically the only kid who would have two parents at this thing.
Also, believe me, i will be working on this to make sure next year there is a "parent's night out"... but until then...
Aside from the rant I could go off on about the whole concept of this meaning that moms are "stuck" at home and presumably dad's should "babysit" so that moms can escape every so often...
We are totally 100% out in every situation, so no hesitation there.. but we are also the only two-mom family, so theoretically the only kid who would have two parents at this thing.
Also, believe me, i will be working on this to make sure next year there is a "parent's night out"... but until then...
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I really wasn't comfortable at this kind of thing until I got involved with the parents club and became friends with a lot of others. So I can really understand both wanting to go and not wanting to go. Do whatever each of you would want to do regardless of the title.
I think that's the problem, I don't know what I want to do. I would be much more interested if it was a parents night out and I thought moms and dads would be there. That way there would be Probably be two parents for some kids there, and working parents there.. With this set up I feel like it's going to be all stay at home moms and I will feel awkward and atypical, never mind feeling different because we're the only two-mom family. I'm dreading it as a gathering of cute, tiny, well-dressed, rich wives who happen to have kids. I don't really think that's totally true. But my emotions tell me that's what it will be. But I also don't want to not go and have the other moms make friends and then E is left out.
part of me would want to both go just to make a point. plus, you'd have eachother's backs. plus, you could make jokes together about all the cute, tiny, well-dressed typical rich wives.
part of me would think that would be an awful idea because you want to have a good rapport with other parents there.
so part of me would want to go so that i could start making positive connections with other parents.
and then i would be so tired of mulling over what to do, i would go ahead and just stay home.
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ETA: if only one of you opt to go, it should be the one who is more involved that wants to connect with the other moms participating. This isn't about being visible; it's about having fun
I am the SAHM and attend most activities or meetings for our kids, but when possible I like us both to go for the fun/family factor, but also because I like others to see families like ours and if we show up together in the beginning then this helps prevent a bunch of husband and dad references, etc. down the road.
if you choose not to go, it's no big deal. you guys might enjoy a night out though for me, I like talking to other moms about challenges I'm having or offering solutions - I've discovered lots of cool new parks and events I didn't know about and just meeting some of my sons friends parents was cool, since I didn't get to participate much at school.
DS (7) - d#470
Boy, n.: a noise with dirt on it.
Go. I don't care (neither does anyone else who matters) if one or both of you goes, but Go. It has completely changed my child's school experience up to this point because I am very, very good friends with her friends Moms. Her BFF's Mom, from her old school and I are going on a kid free spa weekend in a couple of weeks. I had to put myself out there as a 40 year old single mother and ask this Mom to come over for a play date 2 years ago. She is now one of my closest friends. I formed her soccer team with other girls from her class and you know who is on it? The people we are friends with!
When Kate started yesterday she came home and told me about all of her new friends (3 same age girls in her class). So today I stuck my neck out there, tracked them all down and am setting up a play date. I used to be very social but that gets harder as you get older. But I will do anything for my kid and helping her form tighter friendships by getting to know the parents is just part of the job IMO. It isn't always easy as the only single parent either but no one has bitten me yet
DS (7) - d#470
Boy, n.: a noise with dirt on it.