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How long did you wait to TTC again?
So assuming a m/c is complete, HcG is zero, how long would you wait before making another attempt? The ob GYN yesterday said she recommends three normal periods first. That feels so, so long... Yet because we have to do donor egg IVF overseas I don't want to waste our next chance, either.
As a side note, while all the doctors and nurses and ultrasound techs and so on have been really nice through this loss, I don't think they really understand. I got a lot of well-meaning "what's meant to be will be" and "this probably wasn't the healthy baby you want" and "there's always next time" and even "I've been through it too, I know." But they don't know, because it's not like DP and I can go home, have a bunch of sex, and get pregnant again. Not even like we can buy some more swimmers and do ICIs or IUIs. Oh no. I have to go through weeks of injections and then fly halfway around the world for a donor egg, and pay around $10K for another chance to roll the dice. I know I'm probably being unfairly bitter here... Pain isn't a competition... But it just feels so damn unfair.
Anyway. I'm just trying to figure out if there's any chance we might be able to take another try in march or April... That's the only way we'd still get a 2015 baby.
As a side note, while all the doctors and nurses and ultrasound techs and so on have been really nice through this loss, I don't think they really understand. I got a lot of well-meaning "what's meant to be will be" and "this probably wasn't the healthy baby you want" and "there's always next time" and even "I've been through it too, I know." But they don't know, because it's not like DP and I can go home, have a bunch of sex, and get pregnant again. Not even like we can buy some more swimmers and do ICIs or IUIs. Oh no. I have to go through weeks of injections and then fly halfway around the world for a donor egg, and pay around $10K for another chance to roll the dice. I know I'm probably being unfairly bitter here... Pain isn't a competition... But it just feels so damn unfair.
Anyway. I'm just trying to figure out if there's any chance we might be able to take another try in march or April... That's the only way we'd still get a 2015 baby.

Early ovarian failure. 4 failed ICIs, 6 failed IUIs. Donor Egg IVF in Greece: IVF#1 12/2014 - BFP, miscarried at 6WK3D. IVF #2 4/2015 - BFN. IVF#3 7/2015 - BFP. Baby boy Searc born 4/8/16 - 9lbs, 2 oz

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I have found, however, that in a study done of women that had 1st trimester miscarriages, if they got pregnant again within 6 months the chances of going on to have a healthy baby are better than those who wait longer. I am going to wait until at least March because I want to make sure my body is back on track. I am still waiting for my first AF to show and seriously dreading it.
It is just going to be a reminder that I no longer have my baby. This is the most horrible thing to have to go through and unless you have you just have no idea how heart-wrenchingly painful it is!
I'm here if you want to talk.
It sucks and it is totally unfair. I'm sure any miscarriage of a wanted baby is heartbreaking, but it's a totally different scenario when you have a fertile heterosexual couple who can conceive for free in the privacy of their own home. I agree with you 110% that they have NO idea what you're going through. I know they're well meaning but they really need to shut the hell up.
Anyway, I know my RE only recommends that you wait to have 1 normal period after m/c. I really hope you can try again in March or April
It worked! Two clomid cycles and two IUI's with injectables all BFN, on to IVF! 3dt of 2 perfect embryos on 12/15/14, BFP 7dp3dt! Frederick Lars born at 37 weeks on 8/15/15!! FET for #2 on 9/29/16 - BFP 5dp5dt!! Bertram Wilder and Mabel Moon born at 28.4 weeks on 3/29/17!
It worked! Two clomid cycles and two IUI's with injectables all BFN, on to IVF! 3dt of 2 perfect embryos on 12/15/14, BFP 7dp3dt! Frederick Lars born at 37 weeks on 8/15/15!! FET for #2 on 9/29/16 - BFP 5dp5dt!! Bertram Wilder and Mabel Moon born at 28.4 weeks on 3/29/17!
Now I'm just hoping my body will finish this quickly so we can get on with it.
Early ovarian failure. 4 failed ICIs, 6 failed IUIs. Donor Egg IVF in Greece: IVF#1 12/2014 - BFP, miscarried at 6WK3D. IVF #2 4/2015 - BFN. IVF#3 7/2015 - BFP. Baby boy Searc born 4/8/16 - 9lbs, 2 oz
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My brain wasn't ready for at least that long either. We finally started trying again in August following our loss in Dec. So, for us, it took a long time and I don't know if my body will ever truly be the same.
TTC No. 2 since Aug. 2014; IVF #1 - Cxld; IVF #2 - BFN
2nd daughter born 3/8/2016 (bfp after 7 attempts at home ICI, 2 miscarriages, 1 D&C)
age 36
age 39
We had a miscarriage from our TTC attempt in September, which was a confusing situation all around (I got my period, then two weeks later a positive test from the September cycle, right before we were gearing up for another IUI -- but I lost the pregnancy). The RE's office did betas, and when they were zero a few weeks later, said to call on my next period. We tried again right away, and got pregnant with my December cycle.
And today, we lost that little one (no heartbeat on ultrasound). I'm not quite ready to try again this very moment, but I know I will be by the time I can. This forum has been reassuring in some ways... and of course heartbreaking in others. But there's some comfort in knowing our RE is a one cycle after zero beta provider, and we'll be able to try again when my body is ready.
Emotionally, that's a whole 'nother thing, which we'll take one day at a time.
~ Sandy, reassured to know she's not alone in all this.
Im in the same spot. just had a missed loss at 8 1/2 weeks where baby died at 6 weeks growth.
I plan to try again right away. I was thinking that I may ovulate right away since Im barely bleeding after passing it all. then again wondering what if I should be bleeding more?!
it wont be easy to track O im sure right after a loss but I also read that conception is higher in the 3 months following a loss. I have indeed gotten pregnant after losses prior. I have some living children to show for it and rest were losses too. it is indeed hard to plan since Im ordering sperm vs natural sex. this means I could ovulate as early as next week. also, Im not sure if I should use clomid because my egg supply is low and perhaps that would up my chances of one good egg coming thru.
did anyone take clomid right after a loss?