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Birthday Party Etiquette
TxMoms2B
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Over this past year my son has been invited to several birthday parties. We also just celebrated his 4th birthday. This is the first year we've invited kids from school and other extra-curricular activities.
I've noticed a trend regarding "uninvited" children participating in the parties. Many parents brought along siblings (both older and younger) who fully participated in the parties and refreshments.
To take it a step further, at my son's party, the nanny of one of our guests brought her much older son (average age of invited guest was 4, this child was 10-11) who played all the games, ate snacks and cake, and guzzled juice boxes. We nearly ran out of snacks/drinks as we had two uninvited guests arrive (the nanny's son and a guest's younger sibling).
Luckily we did not have to pay extra for these children at our party venue, but if we had I would've been very upset. Is this something that is expected...because I certainly wasn't expecting it?! What would you do? Next year I'm thinking about including something on the invite that discourages "uninvited" guests.
I've noticed a trend regarding "uninvited" children participating in the parties. Many parents brought along siblings (both older and younger) who fully participated in the parties and refreshments.
To take it a step further, at my son's party, the nanny of one of our guests brought her much older son (average age of invited guest was 4, this child was 10-11) who played all the games, ate snacks and cake, and guzzled juice boxes. We nearly ran out of snacks/drinks as we had two uninvited guests arrive (the nanny's son and a guest's younger sibling).
Luckily we did not have to pay extra for these children at our party venue, but if we had I would've been very upset. Is this something that is expected...because I certainly wasn't expecting it?! What would you do? Next year I'm thinking about including something on the invite that discourages "uninvited" guests.
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I don't get the nanny's son tho. We had the party at a bounce warehouse, so here was this big kid jumping and bumping into little 4 year olds. The nanny never even asked if it was ok for him to participate. I literally saw him drink 6+ juice boxes...and at one time 2 at a time!
We would have had to pay for extra kids at our venue, but we didn't invite enough to max out our limit. But if we had invited more kids, and extra showed up, it would've been $10 extra per kid.
I guess a quick note w/ the RSVP ("my younger kiddo" or "my nanny will be bringing my kid, and she has her own child") would've been nice.
4.5 years!
ETA: I wouldn't mind siblings coming if the parent asked first, but just assuming and bringing them is rude, IMO.
That is so true! He whined to his mom (the nanny) that we weren't serving pizza, while he proceeded to eat a plate full of tortilla chips and salsa, cheese cubes and pretzels, fruit and veggies with dip, and goldfish! Then asked for seconds of cake and as previously mentioned drank 6+ juice boxes. The sad part is I factored 3 juices per kid and we were almost out!
4.5 years!
Siblings welcome
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Due to the (nature of the event, size of the venue etc) we are unable to accommodate siblings. Thank you for understanding.
And there is NO way I would have kept my mouth shut about that rudeness. As a nanny I've taken my (same age) child to parties for the girls. We ALWAYS clear this with the host and obviously behave!
These are all some of the reasons we aren't doing a party every year. It's just too much BS.
Hindsight is 20/20! I am not 100% sure how, but this will most definitely not happen to me again!
I was reading an article in a parenting magazine a few months ago about this issue, and it gave the recommended ages that the parents stayed at the party (under 7?), that siblings weren't invited unless they had been given an invitation, that you could ask to bring a sibling if you have to stay at the party but should offer to pay extra at a special location for him/her, and that you don't assume the host will provide food for anyone except the invited guests, so bring your own snacks for your little ones. And I definitely agree about keeping them out of the way of the little ones and invited guests. Significantly older and younger guests do get in the way!