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I'd like opinions on two things:
1. Yesterday, H announced that Anna is his favorite character on Frozen. Then, he added, "and Elsa, and my favorite part is her breasts." Okay...what? My guess is that he's fascinated by breasts right now because I'm breastfeeding. You should see the kid when I pump; he's like attached to my side, watching my nipples' every move. Anyway, did anyone see Will Ferrell's rendition of "Let It Go"? He nailed the hip swing. Even my three-year-old picked up on the sexualization. I admit to having a small crush on her myself...but I'm probably just associating Idina Menzel's voice with Elphaba and feeling all warm and fuzzy. Discuss. Any of that, actually.
ETA: We are totally not weird when H asks/talks about body parts (or anything, for that matter). In fact, some might say that we're too open because we respond to everything pretty honestly.
2. Now that we have two kids, when on Earth are we ever going to have the time and energy (keyword AND) to have sex?
ETA again:
3. When should we stop showering with our boys? H rarely looks at me when we're both in there because he's busy with a helicopter or something, but is he getting too old?
1. Yesterday, H announced that Anna is his favorite character on Frozen. Then, he added, "and Elsa, and my favorite part is her breasts." Okay...what? My guess is that he's fascinated by breasts right now because I'm breastfeeding. You should see the kid when I pump; he's like attached to my side, watching my nipples' every move. Anyway, did anyone see Will Ferrell's rendition of "Let It Go"? He nailed the hip swing. Even my three-year-old picked up on the sexualization. I admit to having a small crush on her myself...but I'm probably just associating Idina Menzel's voice with Elphaba and feeling all warm and fuzzy. Discuss. Any of that, actually.
ETA: We are totally not weird when H asks/talks about body parts (or anything, for that matter). In fact, some might say that we're too open because we respond to everything pretty honestly.
2. Now that we have two kids, when on Earth are we ever going to have the time and energy (keyword AND) to have sex?
ETA again:
3. When should we stop showering with our boys? H rarely looks at me when we're both in there because he's busy with a helicopter or something, but is he getting too old?
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2. It will happen! My gf and I have 6 kids between us from 4-9 years old, and we still manage a lot. We both share custody with another parent so there is that, but it happens even when we have all six in one house!
3. I would follow your instinct on this (that is my #1 parenting advice for everything, actually) and just stop when you feel uncomfortable. I showered with my son for the last time about 6 months-1 year ago, and I didn't feel ok with it anymore. This is mainly due to the small space in our tub, and worth saying I do not want to shower with my daughters any longer, either.
I am always wondering "when" about certain stuff too. It always seems to just work out as part of the evolution. We don't have a giant shower so space has become the catalyst to not showering together. She still sees me naked a lot but I find she's out of the room when I'm dressing much more these days just based on age and independence. She will shower with me from time to time if we are in a hurry but it's slso bath season for her (winter!). The two of us the tub has also lost its appeal as there just isn't room now.
I'm probably not eligible to answer the sex question because sex for me always involves a babysitter at this point.
As for sex...we have the time...it's the energy is where we're usually lacking. I keep "grandma" hours for work so I'm in bed early. My wife enjoys the evenings to have "her" time and that usually means a good book and hot tea. The kiddo has karate and gym 2 nights a week, and then we have family night with my extended family once a week, so weekdays are usually a no go. Our son's gym has parents night out every other week...and we usually choose to have parents night in.
Showering together is once in a blue moon thing now. Mostly because he LOVES bath time (along with his hot wheels bath track, squirt toys, tub paint, etc) and his baths last longer than my wife's and mine combined. But on the rare occasion we're short on time, we'll pop him in with us. He doesn't comment on anything except to say he'd rather have a bath. We are pretty open, so he's seen us change many times. It's just our every day!
4.5 years!
In short, I think the conversation was effective. It wasn't too confrontational, but he knew it was a bigger deal than most things. He didn't feel ashamed at all and he learned his boundaries.
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
Oh, and I haven't had sex since May (you know, all that pelvic rest)....Not sure when the heck I would have time for that now and I only have a little one!
TTC #2: since June 2016...
Just gotta say, having cleaned baby vulvas & penis/scrotums, that I find scrotums to be the biggest pain in the @$$. To be honest, R rarely ever got poop in her vulva. Is that unusual? But cleaning poop up from W, not a fan. Especially of the poop that gets between his penis & scrotum, that is the most obnoxious. I wonder if the genital words are going to get changed or blocked by the forum software...
Our poor children, this is their online legacy...