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In-laws and guns
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So, once a year we go to H's family and stay with them for about a week. It's coming up next week. I know they have guns and I'm freaking a little bit. E knows nothing about guns, heck, I know nothing about guns. They have assured me that they are responsible gun owners, but I'm still terrified that something could happen.
Anybody talk me down?
Anybody talk me down?
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We have had this conversation many times in case she is ever on a play date and I was unaware they had a gun (I do ask, but ya never know...). I really wanted to hammer home that she is NOT to sit there and negotiate with her friend that they should put the gun away but to immediately leave the room (without her friend if they won't come) and to tell a grown up. I could just see her standing there trying to get some kid to do the right thing because that is her mission in life.
Anyway, I honestly am not sure if I would include Kate on the gun tour. I have zero concerns that she would be curious and attempt to check it out on her own but I have made the danger so clear that I think she would be fearful to be in the presence of one (as am I), and may not even want to stay in the house if she knew it was there. Side note - I recently had tenants discover some old guns in a rental house I manage. They said they didn't work. I had to go down there and pick them up then wait for the police to come take them from me. I never opened the shoe box until the officer and I kept them in my car versus bringing them into work with me. It was nerve wracking as I REALLY hate guns and have had ZERO exposure to them! All that to say I completely get where you are coming from.
I also told her that if she is interested, when she is 18 she can learn all about guns. She told me that she will never ever ever have a gun in her house because she wants to have a dog for a pet and you can't have both dogs and guns because people use guns to kill animals and she would never want her dog to be at risk. She put that together herself!
Definitely would throw her off to know that the family has both.
I feel much better about the whole thing.
Fast forward 40 years. I have 3 kids with zero exposure to guns. The danger of them "accidentally" finding and mishandling a gun is incredibly high. They have.no sense of responsibility or respect where weapons are concerned. As such, it is my responsibility to make sure there is no chance of accidental access.
In your shoes, I would want to make sure all weapons were secured separate from ammo and in a location both inaccessible to the kids and one of little interest if they were to go exploring. You can never be too careful!
Growing up, my grandparents had a gun and all of us grandkids knew exactly where they kept it "hidden". That terrifies me now as a parent. Thank you for bringing up this topic. It reminded me of all the fun conversations I now have to have with the majority of my neighbors.
DP's parents took a similar approach with alcohol. She was allowed to taste and then as a teenager even drink at home, so long as her parents were present, and says as a result she never drank at parties as a teen because she could get better stuff at home :P and it didn't feel "naughty" or "daring" to her like it did to her friends.
We plan to follow the same principles with our kiddo, when the time comes. Our philosophy is that it's always better to for parents to expose kids to adult things themselves, in a controlled and planned environment, and teach them what they really need to know, rather than sheltering them to the point where they're getting their "lessons" from friends or schoolmates or what-have-you (inevitably in the most impromptu, unexpected, and possibly dangerous ways.)
Every parent has to make their own choices for their own kids, of course, but thought I'd share our approach, for whatever it's worth.
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