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Tennessee moms
Turtlehart
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My wife and I live on the Virginia/Tennessee state line, and are currently unsure about the Virginia hospital closest to us (we've heard several unfavorable reviews). We would like to switch OB's to someone who has privileges at the better hospital on the Tennessee side.
I called the Tennessee Dept. of Vital Records this morning and they reported that, although both of us will be listed on birth certificate, there is a chance I would be listed as "father" since they have not made paperwork current.
Have any of you had any experience with this, and do I need to worry about the legality of the birth certificate if they have not updated by October?
I called the Tennessee Dept. of Vital Records this morning and they reported that, although both of us will be listed on birth certificate, there is a chance I would be listed as "father" since they have not made paperwork current.
Have any of you had any experience with this, and do I need to worry about the legality of the birth certificate if they have not updated by October?
Our sweet boy has arrived after TTC'ing for 4 years!
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Sorry for ranting. Lol
I just can't except that we should compromise my wife and baby's care based on paperwork! The OB we have been seeing was one I liked because she brings her pets to the veterinary hospital that I work at, but so far she is the ONLY thing we like about that office. Rude staff, extreme wait times (4 hours!), and two of the other doctors don't acknowledge me when I am in the room (obviously the receptionist misunderstood me when I clearly asked if everyone was comfortable with us being a same sex couple).
We are in Wisconsin. My wife is listed as father of our two month old. Our step parent adoption hearing is tomorrow, and they'll reissue it later as parent one and two. But it's the order of adoption that confers parental rights.
In Florida in 2011, when my wife adopted our daughter, the attorney made sure we did Not try to put her on the birth certificate, as it would later screw up the adoption and have to be undone.
Ask an attorney who specializes in same sex families. It matters.
~ Sandy
I second all of this, most heartily. My son didn't have DW on his birth certificate until right before his 3rd birthday, but we finalized a second-parent adoption in Texas at 3 months old. So she had parental rights without the birth certificate. The adoption is what matters--that's what can't be challenged. There are all kinds of legal precedents for the names on birth certificates being overturned, but adoption has pretty much always been treated as legally binding. Talk to an attorney in your state, for sure.
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
B&k, do you know if there are any hang ups with us living in Virginia and having the baby in TN?
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
I recommend finding someone who specializes in same-sex families.
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018
I contacted the hospital recently to ask about putting both moms on the birth certificate (planning to have another baby). I was told that as long as we are legally married, we can both be on it, BUT they do not have updated forms, so my wife would be listed as "father". I have no idea what a VA birth certificate would list her as. We plan to complete a stepparent adoption though, even if she is on the birth certificate from the get-go.
So glad you're back!!!