How many tries/cycles before BFP?

Nwblondemomma

Hello, I am feeling a little down because I have tried and Failed 3 times and would like to know how many times or cycles did you try until you got your BFP! Also how many vials did you use ?

tinydancer

great question!

for me Ive had many losses due to thyroid so Im saying this because Ive been pregnant many times but no baby.
sometimes I get pregnant on the 1st vial of new donor and then had a chemical. another time took me 2 tries with 2 vials each time to get a pregnancy to 8 weeks.
and then moved to a new donor and no + at all so far for 2 cycles.

what I have read here is the BFP posts. and some get it on the 1st try. some within 3 months and several by 6 month. most do 1-2 vials.

RedHeather

I did 4 at-home ICI cycles, with 1-2 vials each time, with no luck. Moved on the RE-assisted IUI and got pregnant on the 2nd one.

b&kmakebabies

We did one at-home ICI (two vials) and six IUIs at a doctor's (both medicated and not). Never got pregnant those tries. Fresh known donor resulted in pregnancy on the first try.

tinydancer

B&k what was your timing with fresh? I may need to move onto fresh myself.

b&kmakebabies

12 hours after smiley and then again about 12 hours later!

ahk00

Was your kd a friend or someone from the kdr? I am really considering going this route but the kdr freaks me out a bit. I have a friend who is willing to be a donor but he lives in TX and I lI've in FL. So I'm not sure how that would work.

b&kmakebabies wrote:

12 hours after smiley and then again about 12 hours later!

kstarr

we did a total of 7 years of trying. about 3/4 of that time we tried the old fashioned way. we tried 2 cycles of iui, then went for ivf. luckily we only had to do one cycle of that. it's different for everyone. good luck!

b&kmakebabies

ahk00 wrote:

Was your kd a friend or someone from the kdr? I am really considering going this route but the kdr freaks me out a bit. I have a friend who is willing to be a donor but he lives in TX and I lI've in FL. So I'm not sure how that would work.

b&kmakebabies wrote:

12 hours after smiley and then again about 12 hours later!

A friend. Not a super close one, but one we trust completely. We had him fil put a questionnaire first and then when we realized we were all on the same page, we hired a lawyer to draw up a contract. I was surprised at how fast it worked considering I was on no meds, hadn't done any of my usual routines to prepare, and it was last minute. There's a way he can ship his goods to you. I forget the name of the company that does it...

ahk00

Thank you. I will look it up. Also would need to find an attorney. I wonder if the attorney needs to be in the state you reside? I have several attorney friends in other states.

b&kmakebabies wrote:

ahk00 wrote:

Was your kd a friend or someone from the kdr? I am really considering going this route but the kdr freaks me out a bit. I have a friend who is willing to be a donor but he lives in TX and I lI've in FL. So I'm not sure how that would work.

b&kmakebabies wrote:

12 hours after smiley and then again about 12 hours later!

A friend. Not a super close one, but one we trust completely. We had him fil put a questionnaire first and then when we realized we were all on the same page, we hired a lawyer to draw up a contract. I was surprised at how fast it worked considering I was on no meds, hadn't done any of my usual routines to prepare, and it was last minute. There's a way he can ship his goods to you. I forget the name of the company that does it...

kelleymel

7 Unmedicated at home ICI/IUI

1 Clomid at home IUI

2 Clomid Dr assisted IUI

1 IVF (BFP)

1 FET (Chemical)

jones.mom02

My partner received a BFP on her 4th try. We used 2 IUI vials each time, all tries at home. I received my BFP on my 3rd try, we used 1 ICI vial each try and always at home.

syoung0204

5th try, at home ICI (1) vial at 24hrs past pos OPK

merilung

kstarr wrote:

we did a total of 7 years of trying. about 3/4 of that time we tried the old fashioned way. we tried 2 cycles of iui, then went for ivf. luckily we only had to do one cycle of that. it's different for everyone. good luck!

This is our exact timeline too!

K&H

3 years of at-home iuis for BFP #1 (E)
3mos of at at-home ici for BFP #2, lost at 11wks
2 Dr assisted IUIs and now in the middle of IVF, hoping for BFP #3 and kiddo #2
6 more frozen embryos hoping for #3 & #4 later on

ljimpey86

I did 2 cycles. First cycle was an at home unmedicated ICI. The second, where I got my BFP, was an at home unmedicated ICI and IUI.

b&kmakebabies

ahk00 wrote:

Thank you. I will look it up. Also would need to find an attorney. I wonder if the attorney needs to be in the state you reside? I have several attorney friends in other states.

b&kmakebabies wrote:

ahk00 wrote:

Was your kd a friend or someone from the kdr? I am really considering going this route but the kdr freaks me out a bit. I have a friend who is willing to be a donor but he lives in TX and I lI've in FL. So I'm not sure how that would work.

A friend. Not a super close one, but one we trust completely. We had him fil put a questionnaire first and then when we realized we were all on the same page, we hired a lawyer to draw up a contract. I was surprised at how fast it worked considering I was on no meds, hadn't done any of my usual routines to prepare, and it was last minute. There's a way he can ship his goods to you. I forget the name of the company that does it...

I'm not sure about the attorney...I'm sure your friends would offer you some insight, though! I would imagine it wouldn't matter for the sperm contract... If you decide to go that route and want to know everything we did, feel free to ask.

Patienceisavirtue

Memory is a little fuzzy now but I think it was 8 cycles. We used 1-2 vials each cycle.

Bfp was 1 ici around 40hrs past positive opk.

Patienceisavirtue

Patienceisavirtue wrote:

Memory is a little fuzzy now but I think it was 8 cycles. We used 1-2 vials each cycle.

Bfp was 1 ici around 40hrs past positive opk.

Hahahahaha, well my signature thing says 6 cycles! I just remember we started on October and ended up pregnant in May.


I blame 15 months of sleep deprivation....

hoping4number2

My wife and I had a c combined total of 10 tries for baby #2. She tried for 8 consecutive months with no success. I tried for the following two months, and baby boy was conceived the second month for me. My wife plans to possibly try again within the next year or two.

ahk00

Thank you. I definitely will. I think I may have found someone!

tinydancer

this post was super informative. its all over the board w # of tries.
seems like if you have no history of infertility or hormone balance off, then you get pregnant between 2-3 tries tho. thats encouraging for many.

grovehill123

Love this question. I have done 6IUI's and 4 FETs, My 4th FET (donor embryo) was my lucky one. I actually have done it all very rapidly, started this journey in March of 2015, and a SMBC and older. I'm still very new, only 4w 5days to being pregnant, and it came at a time I least expected and felt my chances were slim... You never now when its the time. I am a big believer though because I changed this cycle , my folic acid to folate, but had also some stress factors removed too. I'll never know why it worked this time but I am so thankful.

momsquared

Baby #1,2&4 took 1 try at home no meds.
Baby #3 took 4 tries at home 50 mg clomid on 4th try resulting in BFP.

We used 3 vials almost every try. We were beyond lucky and fortunate. We had babies between ages 31 and 36.

bettybohemian

7 ICI at home bfn, 1 IUI at clinic BFN, 1 round of IVF-(9 eggs retrieved, 7 fertilized, 5 survived- 2 implanted 3 on ice), BFP with fraternal twins.