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1 child or 2, and why?
kelleymel
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We've been ttc #2 since last April. I think we are going to try another round of ivf, but it's so expensive! We love our life with our one child. Maybe that's enough kids?
How many do you have vs how many did you want?
How many do you have vs how many did you want?
TTC #1: BFP Cycle #11 IVF (2014)
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018
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It worked! Two clomid cycles and two IUI's with injectables all BFN, on to IVF! 3dt of 2 perfect embryos on 12/15/14, BFP 7dp3dt! Frederick Lars born at 37 weeks on 8/15/15!! FET for #2 on 9/29/16 - BFP 5dp5dt!! Bertram Wilder and Mabel Moon born at 28.4 weeks on 3/29/17!
And then ivf worked and we matched for our little guy. Boom! We have three instead of the one we had resigned ourselves to.
We have always hoped for four. We'all see what life has in store for us.
I guess I'd say keep trying if you need to, and if you don't need to, then don't.
2nd daughter born 3/8/2016 (bfp after 7 attempts at home ICI, 2 miscarriages, 1 D&C)
age 36
age 39
Why? I have no idea. I just feel like someone is missing.
For the record, having 2 (or more) kids does not mean they will be companions or keep each other busy. Sometimes, it just means they have someone to fight with! My oldest 2 are complete opposites in every single way and can't stand each other most of the time. My youngest and my middle son can be absolute best friends one minute and screaming at each other the next. So...there's that.
14 fertility treatments have yielded one amazing kid. Maybe we just need to sink our resources into her and quit trying
I'm afraid I'll resent never having tried, myself. I'm 39, so it's now or never. We just really can't afford IVF and daycare for 2. It's going to wipe us out.
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018
I'm very lucky because my first FET worked and so far at 15 weeks tomorrow, baby girl #2 is healthy and growing.
I am an only child and I'm a SMBC so I REALLY wanted to give my daughter a sibling. I have no living grandparents and I was raised by a single mom so our family circle is very small. I wanted my two kids to have each other as they grow up. If I had a bigger nuclear or extended family, I may not have felt so strongly about it.
I definitely know the money part is scary, but if you can swing it at all, even as debt, and you would resent yourself for not trying, that might be your answer.
Lucky #10 - IVF!
Two sweet baby girls (IVF 2015, FET 2017)
When I'd pose this questions people would always say "you'll never regret having another one but you might regret not trying". I'm honestly not convinced that I wouldn't regret if I had another one. The idea of being outnumbered never appealed to me
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018
Trying for Baby #2: 4th IUI June 2016 - BFP!
Sweet little Rose was born on Feb 25th
Baby #1: Lucky #7 July 2015 - BFP
Our little girl, Hope, was born at 20w4d after PPRoM. She passed away 2 hours after birth.
TTC from 06/2015...Baby M born 11/24/16!
TTC #2: IVF April 2017
BFP: FET Due February 2018