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Just found out I have a half-sister...
allie8573
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So...wild story, my dad was a sperm donor in the 80's. My whole family knew this but at the time it was completely annonymous. For our kids, we chose an open donor because we wanted our kids to be able to find their donor if they wanted to....fast forward 30 years. My mom is super into geneology, always has been, and my dad and her did their DNA on ancestry.com. Well, today, up popped a child match to my dad.
YOU GUYS WHAT DO I DO?? I'm in such shock right now I don't even know how to feel. My initial reaction was "THIS IS SO COOL! Now, I'm going to be able to connect with my kids on a whole different level because I keep in contact with their donor siblings parents and they're on the donor registry."
But now I'm like....oh dear lord...
Thoughts??
YOU GUYS WHAT DO I DO?? I'm in such shock right now I don't even know how to feel. My initial reaction was "THIS IS SO COOL! Now, I'm going to be able to connect with my kids on a whole different level because I keep in contact with their donor siblings parents and they're on the donor registry."
But now I'm like....oh dear lord...
Thoughts??
Lucky cycle #9: IVF Antagonist Cycle in February 2015! 5dt of a grade 4AA blastocyst and got my bfp 5dp5dt
Ruthie Evan born 10/19/2015 at 36+6
Ruthie Evan born 10/19/2015 at 36+6
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Then, if she still hasn't sent a message by next week, send her a short message (or have your dad do so) stating that your dad was a sperm donor and you are open to contact.
I say sit on it a couple of days and let it seep in! And do some internet sleuthing in the meantime!!
For the connection on my mom's side, the guy (a grandson of my mom's biological father) answered enough questions that I was able to confirm the connection, but he stopped responding to my messages after I explained the situation, so I took that to mean he didn't want further contact.
It's really exciting because from what I can see she is an only child with older parents. My parents have 4 kids and are relatively young so I would love for her to get to know us, plus we are just a year apart!
Ruthie Evan born 10/19/2015 at 36+6