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Anyone have an older child with no donor siblings? We are quite baffled that there are no donor siblings for our daughter. Our son will be 7 soon and we connected with two other donor families back when they were babies (all about 6 months apart). We exchange xmas cards and facebook friends, and have met one family and are thinking about meeting the other family soon. I had hoped by now we would have similar opportunities with our daughter, who has a different donor. We did connect with one family who was pregnant at the time, but lost the baby mid-way through the pregnancy. Since it was likely very difficult for them, they stopped communicating with us, understandably. I don't know how many vials they had, but I know they had some left. We sold our vials back about a year ago, and they were scooped up pretty quickly. We think perhaps there are none! Which just seems crazy.
We are also registered on the Donor Sibling Registry site. No one has connected with us there, but I guess I hope one day that the kids might connect through there if they want to. I am surprised that more parents do not use that site.
We are also registered on the Donor Sibling Registry site. No one has connected with us there, but I guess I hope one day that the kids might connect through there if they want to. I am surprised that more parents do not use that site.
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Anyway, if you'd have asked me when Willow was your daughter's age, I'd have said that I didn't think there were any donor sibs either. I wouldn't count the possibility out yet! Both of the other families in my donor group are hetero couples, and I kind of wonder if that is a subset of people who are generally less likely to seek contact...
Good call, Horton. We know of 7 or 8 other families who have children from our donor, and they are all either lesbian, queer, or SMBC. Plus a bunch of his vials were apparently sent to an RE in Europe, and we have no clue about donor siblings resulting from that. But I wonder if there are also donor siblings living in hetero families running around stateside too.
I'm curious to know if there are more!
DS (7) - d#470
Boy, n.: a noise with dirt on it.
This seems so strange to me. When DH and I were still TTC with donor sperm the thought of having this cool connection to other families was one of the perks for us!
It worked! Two clomid cycles and two IUI's with injectables all BFN, on to IVF! 3dt of 2 perfect embryos on 12/15/14, BFP 7dp3dt! Frederick Lars born at 37 weeks on 8/15/15!! FET for #2 on 9/29/16 - BFP 5dp5dt!! Bertram Wilder and Mabel Moon born at 28.4 weeks on 3/29/17!
Well duh, that's because you two are awesome!
But the main reason it's more likely is because it's actually possible for a hetero couple to pretend that their donor-sperm-conceptions instead happened the "good ol'fashioned way". Which is not at all possible for clearly non-traditional queer/lesbian family and SMBC family, so we are more likely to at least look for the donor-sibling connections.
There may be lurkers out there like I am, who do not share donor #s and do not register, but could at any point in time for any sort of reason. I would just keep checking periodically if you desire to find them.
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Looking forward to hearing from you!
Erica, Christina, & Quinn
Yeah somehow you have been successful for conceiving to use product from Northwest. Great work